Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't fall into the trap of dogma that tells you to live in other people's thoughts. Don't let the noise of other people's opinions drown out your inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you really want to become. Everything else is secondary.
Steve Jobs
We offer 100 ways to live life 100% in order to fill every day with drive, pleasure and achievements in areas that interest you.
1. Every day is a new start. Don't get attached to what happened yesterday, the day before yesterday or later. Today new life, and even if something was wrong before, you will definitely try again and again.
2. Be your real self. Stop trying to please other people and be someone else. It is much more interesting to become a unique version of yourself, and not someone else's duplicate.
28. Be positive. The glass really is half full. :)
See life as an adventure and a game. Radiate optimism and give people a smile.
29. Don't talk bad about others. If you don't like something about another person, tell them to their face. In any other case, don't say anything.
30. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Try to see life from another person's perspective. The janitor may have been rude to you this morning, but why did he do it? Probably, no one simply pays attention to him, he is considered service and unnecessary personnel and his work is not appreciated at all. Think about how to make sure he greets you with a smile next time.
31. Show compassion. Really empathize with someone else's problem.
32. Develop unconditional faith in yourself. Believing in yourself means continuing to move forward even when everyone talks you out of it.
Analyze your small victories, remember how you went against the grain, remember the pleasure of knowing that you were right and everyone was wrong. If you have something in mind, be sure that everything will work out.
33. Let go of an unhappy past.
34. Forgive those who ask for forgiveness. Don't hold a grudge against people, but know their weaknesses and accept them for who they are.
35. Eliminate the unimportant. Understand the short-term nature of things like status, fame, recognition. Everything will work out if you focus on self-realization rather than social recognition.
36. Leave relationships that are not helping you.
Remove people from your environment who add unnecessary pessimism to your life.
37. Spend more time with people who inspire and support you. Try to create a circle of active and active like-minded people. It’s really great when you come up with something together and start implementing it within 10 minutes.
38. Build genuine relationships with the people around you: strangers, family, loved ones. Spend time strengthening and improving your relationships.
39. Reconnect with your old friend. No matter what they say, the number of friends is unlimited. Meet people from your past.
40. Have a day of generosity. Think about what you can do today that could make the world a little better.
Doing good to others is The best way improve your mood.
41. Help people when they need it. Think of this step as a long-term investment. Someday you will receive help without expecting it.
42. Go on a date.
43. Fall in love.
44. Get your life in order. Once a week, month, six months, analyze your progress and progress towards your plans. Adjust your actions based on the results obtained.
45. Don't delay. Get rid of the habit of delaying. Nine out of ten opportunities are missed due to delay in taking action.
46. Help completely strangers. This can determine your destiny in the future.
47. Meditate.
48. Make acquaintances. New opportunities come from new people. Don’t be afraid to force yourself into the circle of people you are interested in and make friends with them.
49. Create strong relationships.
50. Become your advisor from the future. Imagine yourself 10 years from now and mentally ask yourself for better advice regarding difficult decisions. What would you do if you were 10 years wiser?
51. Write a letter to your future self. Believe that in 5-10 years you will laugh even louder at yourself today.
52. Remove excess. From your desk, from your apartment, from your hobbies, from your life. Make room for more important things.
53. Continue. Why do people stop studying when they graduate? educational institution? Studying does not mean sitting behind books. You can learn to drive a car, learn to dance, learn rhetoric, and so on.
The main goal is to keep the brain in constant tension.
54. Develop yourself. Try to determine your weak sides and develop them. If you are too shy, train yourself to be more sociable and face your fears.
55. Upgrade yourself constantly. Deepen your already acquired knowledge and experience, become an expert in many areas.
56. Constantly try something new. You simply can’t imagine how many more new and interesting things you can experience and feel (do you know what Watsu massage is?).
57. Travel. Pull yourself out of your “work - home, home - work” routine of movement. Discover, of which there are many even in your city. Any journey is always something new.
58. Don't stay in one place. Always live dynamically and try to tie yourself down with repair loans as late as possible.
59. Be the best at what you do. If you realize that you are good in the corporate field, but are far from a star, go from there to a field where the chances of becoming the best and achieving more are much higher. If you have found your calling, become the best there.
60. Break your boundaries. Set the most impossible goal, achieve your plan and come up with something even more impossible. All the tension comes from what someone once told you what is possible and what is not.
61. Absorb and try to bring unusual ideas to life.
62. Create your own space for inspiration. This could be a corner where all your inspiring things are located (books, photos, videos), or a park, cafe or favorite bench. Create your own paradise.
63. Behave in ways that bring you closer to the ideal version of yourself.
64. Create roles in life. Try acting as if you were Bill Gates, Michael Jordan or some famous successful person.
65. Find a mentor or guru. Study the life of your guru and try not to repeat his mistakes. Consult with a more experienced mentor.
66. Find your previously invisible strengths.
67. Try to be more conscious.
68. Ask for constructive criticism and advice. You can always see better from the outside.
69. Try to create a passive income stream. This could be interest in a bank, income from renting out an apartment, or something else.
Passive income will give you the opportunity to be more free in your experiments in life and build on what you want, not what you need.
70. Help others live the best life possible. If you see that you can help a person improve their life, be sure to help them find the right path.
71. Get married and have children.
72. Improve the world. Help poor, unhealthy, people deprived of the opportunity to live a normal life.
73. Participate in a humanitarian aid program.
74. Give more than you receive. When you continually give more, you begin to receive a lot more in return over time.
75. Try to see big picture. Focus on the 20% that generates 80% of the results.
76. Your end goal must be clear. What is she like? Is what you are doing really helping you achieve your goals?
As long as you think about things that bring you closer to your goal, you are on the right track.
77. Always try to find the 20/80 way. Minimum effort, but maximum result.
78. Set your priorities. Sometimes it is more convenient to move by inertia and it is difficult to switch to a more important task, but this very property will make your life much more efficient.
79. Enjoy the moment. Stop. Look. Thank fate for the pleasant things you have at the moment.
80. Enjoy the little things. A cup of coffee in the morning, 15 minutes of sleep in the afternoon, a pleasant conversation with dear person- all this may be incidental, but try to pay attention to all the small pleasant moments.
81. Take a break. It could be 15 minutes or 15 days.
Life is not a marathon, but a pleasure walk.
82. Try to avoid mutually exclusive goals.
83. Focus on creation. The process of creation - a game, a new business, etc. - when you get candy out of nothing should be interesting to you.
84. Don't judge others. Respect others for who they are.
85. Only person The person you have to change is you.
Focus on your development and growth, not on changing those around you.
86. Be grateful for every day you live.
87. Express your gratitude to the people you care about.
88. Have fun. You are lucky if you have friends who laugh non-stop, with whom you forget about everything. Allow yourself this experiment too!
89. Be in nature more often.
90 . There is always a choice. There are always several ways out of any situation.
91. Laugh more often and louder.
92. Be prepared for change - this is the essence of life.
93. Be prepared for disappointment - it's part of life.
94. Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Treat them as lessons, but try not to go through the same lesson multiple times.
95. Don't be afraid to take risks. Risk is a state when all your senses are at their limit and you learn your limits.
96. Fight your fears. Every day you need to do something that you are afraid of. This is very difficult, but important.
97. Do it. Don't let your body get rusty.
98. Develop your intuition and follow it, even if logic tells you not to.
99. Love yourself.
100. Love those around you.
Most readers are now expecting to see another top 10 advice from a guru on all issues, who in a few minutes will change the idea of life with advice on what to eat and when to go to bed, so that life sparkles with all its colors. However, today we will not offer you algorithms on the topic “How to live your life not in vain,” we invite you to take part in a discussion of how to force yourself to simply step aside and look at yourself from the outside: at your day, at your plans for tomorrow.
Let's try.
How to look at your life from the outside - the first part of the experiment
The importance of each event is determined by his personal attitude to the situation - this sounds like a banality, but it is not. Let's do a little experiment right at home, alone with ourselves. Take a regular tea mug and a handful of small items - for example, walnuts. Let these be the most important aspects your life, but precisely aspects, not tasks. For example, one nut may be “health care”, another “time spent with children”, another “creative pleasure”, etc. Let the mug fill up, because in fact, each nut is the most important thing that we We see it for ourselves, but alas, we cannot always realize it.
Second part of the experiment
Isn't it true that the mug - "our life" seems complete? But look how much space there is between the large nuts. Take a handful of pine nuts as much as you can scoop. Each nut represents tasks and plans, dreams and goals. There are so many tasks in our lives that it makes no sense to list them. It's going to work, doing a project, saving for a vacation... just dump all the tasks into a mug and make sure they fit easily between the important aspects of life. It’s more difficult with dreams, because we often confuse what we want with a simple to-do list for tomorrow. But try it.
The penultimate part of the experiment
Well, is your life a success? Look, it's almost full. But what about what we do in reality? Where are our evenings on social networks and hour-long conversations on the phone about nothing? Where is watching a TV series, clicking through the channels on the remote, scrolling through parties filled with alcohol? Take this exact mug of water and slowly pour it into your life. So how? Surprisingly, why we live in reality, why we wake up every morning and what we strive for in the evening, also fits perfectly between the aspects of life, plans, dreams and tasks.
Drawing conclusions
Why did we ask you to do all this? Just for the last two steps, which will clearly convince you that changes in your life are still necessary. We have just poured a full mug of water into our lives, and the liquid has been successfully distributed among our dreams, goals and priority aspects. Don’t be too lazy to fill the empty mug with water to the brim again, only this time don’t pour it anywhere, but even vice versa - take a few walnuts and try to put them in the water.
Happened? The water poured over the edge, and hardly one or two nuts (important aspects of life, as we remember) could balance on its surface. And now - unpleasant. Look at both mugs that are full and honestly point to the one that is truly your life. And if after this you do not feel an unpleasant bitterness in your mouth, then you - happy man. Or morally dead. One out of two.
Beggar banker
What we described to you in a clear example of how the absolute emptiness filled with everyday bustle gradually becomes the basis of our life, displacing everything that has at least some real value, is well described in his post by a certain John, a 46-year-old American, considered successful a citizen of his country.
A successful banker with a family, a lot of money and a position in society, as if he had hit a blank wall, he came across the realization that his version of how to live his life was only suitable for two lines of a boring obituary at the end of his life. A dreamer in his youth, a talented young man who had envisioned a career as a writer, suddenly realized that he had become morally impoverished, left without a family, without plans for the future, without understanding why he needed to wake up in the morning. And he, like a chilling appeal, like a cry from his painful soul, throws out into society, to everyone who accidentally came across his post in the wilds of the Internet: “People! If you still have life left in you, live! Do crazy things, travel, help everyone you can without looking back! Leave a mark, because we are what we leave behind!”
The pain of memories is dearer to us
Already in the course of our first experiment, you were able to determine what constitutes the real value of your life, its priorities, its smaller, but so necessary tasks. You have refreshed your memory of your dreams and, perhaps, have already asked yourself the following question: how to live your life not in vain? What to spend on this clean roll of parchment of indefinite length, which is still spread clean in front of us?
You may have noticed that there was no place for nostalgia in our circle of life - we didn’t even spare a cedar grain for memories, and here’s why. The past is an amazingly powerful whirlpool that can take away a significant piece of online life. A person immersed in memories falls out of reality and freezes for a long time in sleep mode, and positive emotions from the past are no less destructive than negative ones - we at least try to drive them away, but we go headlong into joyful nostalgia, losing precious time.
Don't be proud of the past if you have nothing to be proud of in the present, don't regret the past if you didn't have what came later. Each of us has our own deadlines for fulfilling our desires, and trying to fish out from the depths of bygone days the emotional base that formed their basis is no more exciting than tearing open tea bags in order to sow a tea plantation - pointless and stupid.
What do we live for?
Why do we live? IN childhood such a thought does not occur to us, since the answer to this question lies in a person much deeper than an adult bothers to look, and a child, in fact, lives only by the depth of his own perception. Children are generally not characterized by superficial judgment; this diplomacy comes to us over the years. For them, everything is very clear - we live to enjoy every minute, to enjoy so much that even 15 minutes for lunch seems like an annoying waste of time.
For a preschool or younger child school age one can explain that parents must work, but to try the same situation on himself - that he will have to sit in a stuffy office or pore in a workshop from 8 am to 6 pm is unthinkable for him. He understands that he was born for someone else - he wants to build beautiful houses, and not breathe cement dust, come up with new toys, and not agonize over drawings to create them. In every profession, he first of all sees its colorful side. Often a day spent with dad at work, when a child sees how his father painfully waits until the end of the working day, plunges little man in shock - how, is this the concept that life is good?
The destruction of illusions is considered the first step in entering adult life. “He’s growing up,” the parents will say, not realizing that the foundation of the correct foundation is leaving the child’s life. life position- nothing should hinder the enjoyment of life. And the work where we spend 50% of our lives is even less than anything else.
The final part of our little conversation should be crowned with some kind of moral, like this: “Now you know exactly how to live your life not in vain.” However, returning to the beginning, we repeat - this is not a manual or a set of step-by-step actions. Any guide is the same algorithm, inspired by someone with a specific goal, and it’s strange to think that the task of some stranger will be to create your personal happiness.
Carry out the experiment that we wrote about, then make yourself a cup of coffee or tea and just calmly think, but not about how to live your life not in vain - after all, these, in essence, are nothing more than words. Think about what your very last look back at the past will be like - a look without evaluation and comparison with someone else, where it is not a successful deal that flashes before your eyes and it is not the pride of a new promotion that makes you smile.
Just think.
Useful tips
This unique material is the most this instruction, which will help you learn more about the deepest secret of the Universe, which is life (in this case, the life of a specific person, that is, your life).
They say that living life is not a field to cross. This famous saying means that from each of us requires appropriate effort and skills to cope with life’s ups and downs, difficulties, sorrows and bad weather; draw the right conclusions from the path traveled.
Yes, life is unfair. Moreover, at the end life path we are dying. From this fact Many give up, especially if you look back and don’t see any significant actions that would distinguish LIFE from aimless existence.
In order to learn to live, we must understand the structure, solve the puzzle of human life itself. Actually, it's not that complicated. Every person who lives to old age goes through four stages of life. What are these stages and what can be recommended for each of them?
The essence of human life
First Stage of Life: Imitation
Man is born helpless. He cannot walk, talk, or eat food on his own. As children, we are doomed to watch and imitate others. Initially, we master physical skills and learn to speak.
We then develop social skills, also by observing and imitating our surroundings. As a result, in the last years of childhood, a person adapts to the cultural traditions around him.
This also happens through observation of the rules and norms existing in society. A growing child tries to behave in accordance with the norms that are considered generally accepted in our society.
What is the purpose of the First Stage of life?
The goal of Stage One is to learn how to function within society in order to become autonomous and self-sufficient an adult. main idea is that the adults around us help us achieve this goal.
To do this, they help us learn to make decisions and act independently. However, some adults and some models of society that we find ourselves in teach bad things. They punish us for wanting to be independent; they don't teach us how to make decisions.
This is why some people fail to become autonomous. Such people get stuck in Stage One, endlessly trying to imitate everything around them. They are constantly trying to please someone so that they are not judged harshly by those around them.
In a "normal" healthy individual, Stage One continues into late adolescence or early adulthood. However, for some people it continues into their adult lives.
The “chosen few” manage to come to their senses at the age of 45 and realize that they, in fact, have never lived for themselves. And then the question arises - where the hell have my years gone??! This is the First Stage of Life - imitation. That is, the absence of independent thoughts and personal values.
Of course, we have a responsibility to be aware of the standards and expectations of the people around us. But we also have a responsibility to become strong enough to sometimes act in defiance of those standards and expectations when necessary. We must learn to act independently and in our own interests.
Second Stage of Life: The Process of Self-Discovery
In the First Stage of life, we learn to fit in with the people around us and their cultural values. Stage Two is about learning how to what distinguishes us from the people around us and their cultural values.
This stage requires us to start making decisions for ourselves, to test ourselves and understand ourselves; It is also necessary to understand what makes us unique, different from others. Thus, Stage Two involves experimentation and trial and error.
We are experimenting with changing our place of residence, finding mutual language with new people, exploring a new environment and trying slowly stick your nose into other people's affairs. During this period, many young people begin to travel (much depends on individual capabilities).
The second stage is the process of self-discovery. We take on different things during this period. Some of them are going well. Some - not so much. The purpose of this period is to try to understand what you do well, so that you can then move along the chosen path.
What is the purpose of the Second Stage of Life?
The Second Stage lasts until we begin to run into our own limitations. This happens to many people breaking existing stereotypes. Be that as it may, discovering these very limitations is quite normal and even useful.
You just suddenly realize that you are not very good at some things, no matter how hard you try. Therefore, you need to know what exactly you are not very good at. For example, you don’t know how to cook so much that you can’t even prepare a basic meal for yourself.
This can be easily learned, although it will take some time and effort. Or let’s take a more “severe case” - for example, a person by nature may not be sick enough and physically weak. But this situation too making every effort, can change.
In other words, we simply must independently recognize all our weaknesses as early as possible. And the sooner the better. The more chances and time to do everything necessary to correct the situation.
So, in some issues and things we are not very good. There are other things we are quite good at, but getting worse over time. For example, once upon a time your voice was sexy and your skin was so soft that you were always popular with the opposite sex.
Or you could easily get drunk on a weekday, and the next day, early in the morning, show up at work fresh and alert. You never know what “abilities” you had, and then you lost them! In other words, you become aware of LIMITATIONS.
And this stage is very important because you must ultimately come to the understanding that our time on this planet is limited. Therefore, it should be spent on things that are truly worth it the most.
You must realize that you should not do this or that just because you can do it easily. You have to realize that you shouldn't be around certain people just because you like these people (but they don't care about you).
Peter Pan Syndrome
You must realize that there are alternatives for almost everything in this world, but this does not mean that they are all open to you. However, there are people who never admit to themselves that they feel such restrictions.
Perhaps they refuse to admit their mistakes; or perhaps they delude themselves into believing that such restrictions do not exist for them. Such people are simply stuck in the Second Stage of life.
There are “successful entrepreneurs” who are under forty years old and who still live with their mother because they were unable to earn money for recent years 15 efforts. There are "popular actors" who constantly waiting for calls from famous directors, but they themselves didn’t go to a single audition for last couple years.
There are people who have not committed themselves to long-term relationships for the sole reason that it seems to them that just a little time will pass and very soon they will meet the “ideal” person who will be better than those from whom they had the chance to choose earlier.
But we all, at some point in our lives, must accept the inevitable - life is short, Not all dreams come true. Thus, we should be more careful about highlighting and taking more seriously those things and activities that we are good at.
However, people who are stuck in Stage Two spend a lot of time trying to convince themselves otherwise. The fact is that they have no restrictions. The fact is that they can overcome anything. The fact is that their life is continuous growth and the desire for world domination. And at this time, those around them see in such people only those who run in place...
In a “healthy” individual, the second stage begins in the middle or late adolescence and lasts until 25 (ideally) or 35 years. People who are stuck in Stage Two are eternal teenagers constantly discovering themselves, but finding nothing in themselves. They say about such people that they have Peter Pan syndrome.
What is a sense of life
Third Stage: accomplishments
Let's say you've tested your boundaries and identified either your limitations (inability to cook, inability to set records in sports - it doesn't matter) or what you're starting to get worse at (playing video games worse, becoming less capable of learning - also doesn't matter ).
Now you must understand that discovering these boundaries is, firstly, extremely important for you; and the very fact of awareness of these moments is by no means something terrible for you. This only means that the time has come to leave your mark on this world.
The Third Stage is a period of great generalization of everything in your life. You need to throw out those pseudo-friends from your life who take advantage of you and pull you back. You should forget about those activities and hobbies that are a waste of time.
You need to finally get rid of those callous dreams which will definitely not become a reality in the near future. And after that, you should put your maximum effort into what you do best and what is best for you personally.
What is the purpose of the Third Stage of Life?
You need to put your best effort into the most important relationships in your life. You need to make every effort to fulfill the one mission in your life that seems most important to you.
This is the mission you are good at– whether you are a specialist in overcoming the global energy crisis, an artist computer graphics, an expert in the treatment of brain diseases or... the parent of several wonderful children.
It doesn’t matter what you are better at than others - the Third Stage comes when you have already decided on this direction. The Third Stage of Life is about maximizing the full potential of your life. This is the stage of building your legacy. And this does not necessarily mean the accumulation of a large fortune!
What will remain after you when you leave this mortal world? What kind of person will people remember you as? Will it be scientific discovery, which shocked the world? Or will you create an amazing new product? Or will there be beautiful children left behind you?
The Third Stage of life is a period when it is time to live a little differently than you were used to before. The Third Stage ends when a combination of two things happens: first, when you feel that there is not much left that you could achieve; secondly, when you start to get old and tired and you are more likely to be drawn to the sofa watching TV and doing crossword puzzles.
For “normal” individuals, Stage Three of life usually begins around age forty and lasts until retirement. People usually get stuck in Stage Three when if they never found a way out for their ambitions and constantly wanting more.
The inability and unwillingness to release the grip and influence that such people feel interferes with the natural "soothing effect" of time. Therefore, they often remain active and hungry for action until they are 70 or 80 years old.
Stage Four: Legacy
People enter Stage Four after living for about half a century and investing their efforts in what they consider important and significant. They did serious things, worked hard, earned money; perhaps they started a family, started a political career, carried out a cultural revolution; or both, and the third.
They have reached an age when their energy and living conditions no longer allow them to set themselves such global goals as was possible in the previous Stages. Of course, there are exceptions, but they only confirm this harsh rule.
What is the purpose of the Fourth Stage of Life?
The goal of Stage Four is not so much to create your legacy, but to make sure that your legacy is can be saved until your deathbed. And don’t confuse heritage with inheritance (although the latter would also be useful).
For many, a completely normal goal of this Stage may be such a “simple” thing as supporting their own adult children (giving advice, helping with grandchildren, and so on). This may be the transfer of experience and affairs to their successors and students.
This may be a strengthening of one's own political activity, allowing to strengthen certain values in society, which the new generation does not really want to acknowledge. In other words, we're talking about about heritage in the broadest sense of the word.
The Fourth Stage is very important from a psychological point of view, since it gives each individual a chance to come to terms with the inevitable reality of approaching death. It is in human nature - an urgent need for our lives to have at least some meaning.
This is why people are in constant search what is literally ours psychological protection against the incomprehensibility of this life and the inevitability of the fact that the mortal existence of every person on this planet has an end.
The worst thing is if this meaning is lost; if he begins to inevitably slip away from someone’s life; or if the person feels as if life has simply passed them by. In this case, we come face to face with oblivion, which will willingly swallow us up.
How to live correctly
What is the meaning of the Stages?
We develop as we go through each next Stage of life. Every time we get more opportunities to control our own state of happiness and well-being– and this is the meaning of the Stages. In the First Stage, a person is completely dependent on the actions of other people, on which his happiness also completely depends.
This looks very unfair in the realities of our existence, since other people are often unpredictable and unreliable. However, having moved to the Second Stage, a person can decide for himself whether to rely on other people.
What is friendship and what are friends in our lives? Each person evaluates these concepts individually for himself, and it cannot be accurately called universal even within one country. However, be that as it may, the very word “friendship” in any corner of the planet will have a kind of sacred meaning, because it has always occupied a special place in human life.
Is it possible to live life without having friends? If we approach this issue with direct cynicism, we can safely say that a person can calmly live life without friends, as well as without love, but what kind of life will it be and will it have meaning? In other words: is life worth living without human warmth, without support, without moral and peace of mind, without mutual sorrow and mutual joy in order to live it? And is life without friendship a life in full meaning this word - or is it simply existence? In the novel by M.Yu. Lermontov's “Hero of Our Time” Pechorin is presented to us as a man with a cold and calculating mind: all his life he used people for his own personal purposes and never experienced either warm feelings of friendship or, as it seemed, tender feelings true love. However, following the chronology of the novel, we pay attention to many significant details, from which we conclude that main character It’s not that he doesn’t know how to communicate in a friendly way: from childhood, he so carefully destroyed in himself any impulses of affection for a person that with age he simply forgot how to be friends, although people worthy of his affection appeared in his life. This was the case, for example, with Maxim Maksimych, and Werner was completely similar to Grigory Alexandrovich in his hobbies, attitude towards life and towards people - an ideal candidate for a friend. Pechorin had the opportunity to “talk about everything as if he were talking to himself,” but he missed this chance, choosing loneliness as a preference. At the end of the novel, we learn that our hero has lost all desire to live, has not found any meaning even in travel, and, it seems to me, if he still at least sometimes shared his own experiences with people, opened up to at least someone, allowing him to help solve his problems, then perhaps his life would have turned out completely differently and would not have ended so tragically.
The hero of the novel I.S. is in a similar situation. Turgenev "Fathers and Sons". Bazarov, like Pechorin, is an extraordinary personality: all his life he has followers and admirers next to him - but not friends. And maybe the reason lies in the fact that Bazarov did not know how to make friends, maybe he was too demanding of the people who were next to him, or maybe he simply did not come across worthy and interesting personalities. But, in any case, it seems to me that there were no real friends capable of understanding the complex nature of Evgeny Bazarov, capable of helping him, suggesting, reassuring him, and even Arkady, who considered Bazarov to some extent a friend, himself perfectly understood that he had never will not be able to know how this person feels. Did Bazarov lack friendly support, friendly understanding? I think yes. That is precisely why his death is as tragic as Pechorin’s death: by denying love, friendship, art, he drove himself into rigid boundaries, deprived of all satisfaction from life and lost all meaning of his existence.
Life without friendship, without love, without emotions is meager, boring and meaningless. It is certainly possible to live it, but it seems to me that there is absolutely no point in this.
"Live your best life." These four words, made famous by Oprah Winfrey, represent the one and only instructions you should follow to become a happy and successful person. There are many ways to start living your best life.
Steps
Part 1
Find your purpose-
Realize your full potential. Put your best effort into everything you do. If you are given a task or working on a project, complete it to the best of your ability. Even if it's not what you want to do, do the best job you can. Giving less than 100% will not bring you any positive emotions or any other reward.
- Work on developing the skills you already have and strive to learn new ones.
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Look for your place and purpose in life. This is perhaps one of the most difficult steps on the path to better life, and many spend their entire lives searching for purpose and meaning. Many never fully realize their purpose, but in order to live life to the maximum, this is simply necessary. Think about what talents you were born with, what you especially like to do and what can benefit the world around you.
- The key to finding your place in the world is to be open to your path and take on different things so you can figure out what you enjoy doing. Often this can be something unexpected.
- The best way to determine if you're moving in the right direction is to think about how satisfied you are with your life. If you feel satisfied with your job and your environment day in and day out, on a consistent basis, that's a good sign.
- Finding your place may not be at all connected with a prestigious job or a luxurious lifestyle. All you need is to be in a place where you feel happy and content every day.
- Even if you don't feel like you have any remarkable skills that can lead you to achieve your dreams, you still need to look for your purpose. Perhaps your goal is to help the homeless as a volunteer. If such an activity gives you a deep sense of satisfaction, then it is worth continuing to do it.
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Be aware of your own limitations. Recognizing your potential is extremely important, but it is equally important to recognize your limitations. Sometimes persistence in certain area- not the best choice, since your skills may be much more useful in a completely different matter. Reflect on what you do particularly well and try to use your strengths as often as possible and take them into account when making decisions.
- For example, if you are talented at drawing and have an affinity for other types of art, but are not strong in technology, you should concentrate on those things that require creative energy rather than technical awareness. Then you will reach more success and you will experience more satisfaction from the results of your labors.
- But be careful and beware of one-sidedness, rigidity and fear of change.
