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Each of us had to answer tactless questions. Sometimes it makes you angry, sometimes it makes you happy. Often people don't even realize that they are putting someone in an awkward position, but that doesn't make it any easier to deal with such situations.
website I collected the most awkward questions that each of us has heard at least once, and found answers to them, seasoned with a dose of humor.
1. How much does your apartment cost?
When it comes to money, any harmless questions can turn out to be insensitive. But as soon as you get your own home, every second person wants to know how much you paid for the apartment, invested in the construction of the house, or how much the renovation cost.
It’s up to you to say the real price or not, but you can always take the topic in a different direction.
Answers:
- Now there is a place to live, but nothing to do with it.
- It’s too early to say whether there are still so many years to pay for it.
2. When will you get married? It is high time
There are many jokes about how as soon as a girl meets a guy, she immediately begins to “try on” his last name and choose names for their children. But often things look different: as soon as you start dating someone, everyone around you is asking questions about the wedding. Few people are interested in the fact that you are not ready yet, that you are already fine, or that you do not plan to tie the knot at all.
Answers:
- Today we set the alarm early to get to the registry office in time, but it’s a shame that we overslept. But tomorrow - definitely!
- When are you going? At what age did you get married?
- When do you want to get us married?
3. How much do you get paid?
People may be interested in earnings based on various reasons: out of pure curiosity, worried about you or, for example, jealous. But any of dozens of such reasons does not oblige you to give a full financial report.
Answers:
- I have enough to live on!
- Ninety thousand Taiwan dollars!
- I receive average salary by industry (but significantly less than Bill Gates).
4. Why don't you have children? Time is ticking
The appearance of a baby in a family is a purely personal matter, but this never stops anyone. Questions about children begin to be asked even before the wedding, reinforced by the assurances “without a child, this is not a family,” “the time has long come,” and “how can you not want children at all.”
Answers:
- In May! 2025.
- We’ve already started it, we just don’t tell anyone about it.
- Why do you want to know this?
5. How old are you?
6. Did something happen to you? You're sad
Of course, if a person close to you asks this question, then most likely he is just worried. But sometimes we don’t want to talk about our problems even to our family, and asking questions only makes the situation worse. Try to smile when answering this question to dispel all doubts with one look.
Answers:
- I just thought about the meaning of life!
- I’m a little tired, but that’s okay - I’ll sleep and shine again.
Answers:
- Still haven't met my destiny.
- How did you understand that it was “he”?
- At first I decided to have a child, suddenly for the second I would want a different dad!
- I will get married as soon as the divorce proceedings are over.
In any case, you always have the right to directly say that you do not want to discuss a particular topic, and avoid crumpled and unpleasant answers to tactless questions.
Many girls are constantly “terrorized” by parents, relatives and acquaintances, with questions about when she will get married, when she will have children, and so on. Often this is done in a supposedly half-joking form, with some kind of jokes and short public remarks. How to answer questions like these about when will you get married? How to react when parents, relatives and friends constantly ask?
After all, on the one hand, these seem to be meaningless questions and comments, but on the other hand, they greatly touch, as they say, “to the quick.” After all, many girls are really worried about this.
Some are worried that they have not yet met their loved one and cannot find a man, some worry that they are in a relationship in which the man is not really going to propose, or in a “civil” marriage. So how to react to such behavior of relatives?
It's none of your business when I get married
The first thing I want to say is the stupidity and inappropriateness of such questions. Why do you even care? personal life girls? What right do you have to interfere with her life with your questions and somehow disturb her?
It is obvious that women are often seriously worried about this.
And when a person asks such a question, we can say that he hits a very sore spot. Why is he doing this?
Either he does this out of his stupidity and narrow-mindedness, and is simply not able to think about what feelings a woman experiences during such questions. Or he does it consciously and intentionally, and then this person is just a scoundrel who wants to do some dirty tricks on you and ruin your mood. Why then communicate with him at all?
What's the best way to answer the question when will you get married?
The best answer to a similar question: “I’m not ready to waste my time on riffraff, and I’ll really find worthy person" After all, the fact that you are still not married does not mean that you are somehow flawed or anything like that. You just don’t agree to exchange yourself for someone.
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After all, many girls get married in their youth precisely for these reasons. If only for whom, for the first person you meet, if only to marry. Say that you are just a girl of a different level, and you will wait for your man.
If you have more a strong character, and you can rebuff such questioners - you can answer more harshly: “What difference does it make to you? This is my personal life, take care of yours”? or another option: “I’m already tired of these conversations, don’t you have anything else to ask?”, or “This is a tactless question on your part.” This is a rather rude answer, and you shouldn't always use it, but sometimes people only understand rudeness when they come at you with their stupid questions.
Often, after a sharp answer, they leave you behind, but when you start answering softly, they begin to delve deeper into your soul, interfering with even more questions and unnecessary advice.
Someone answers in a joking manner: “When will I get money from you for a wedding, a car and living space”, “Have you been wanting to take me away for a long time?”, or “For what purpose are you interested? Are you going to ask her to marry you?” After all, why on earth you have to answer to someone for your personal life and your destiny?
In answering such questions, your intonation, your facial expressions, and other indirect signs of your speech are also very important.
After all, if you answer clearly, specifically and with confidence, then the person can quickly get behind you.
Or you can start mumbling and being soft - and they will sit on your neck and treat you as a failed child and an immature person.
Well, if you pronounce your answer with outright irritation and begin to be rude in response, on the one hand, this may offend the questioner (well, to hell with him), but, most importantly, it will show that this question really hurts you, this yours pain point. People will see this and begin to manipulate you in this regard. Therefore, you need to be careful here.
How not to answer a question about marriage
What you definitely shouldn’t do is answer that they don’t “get” you married yet, or that you would be glad to, but no one proposes, and so on.
All this puts you in a kind of disadvantaged position, as if you are directly tormented, but supposedly no one is so interested in you that they don’t even invite you.
It diminishes you as a person and lowers your self-esteem. Therefore, you should not answer in this way.
Remember the main thing - your behavior means a lot to a man, but if there is no harmony at the level of signs, then the relationship will be very tense. It would be very desirable to know exact compatibility exactly your zodiac sign with the sign of a man. This can be done by clicking on the button below:
If a girl answers like this, then she can be very tortured, begin to gloat and whisper behind her back. Again, only boors and ignorant people can do this, and you shouldn’t pay much attention to them.
When is it really time to get married?
The answer to this question actually needs to be given first of all to yourself. And the answer is that what’s yours will never leave you.
Often women begin to get very stressed because they see around them supposedly examples of how others “life is in full swing,” but here I am sitting alone, wishing at least someone would kill me. But this is actually an illusion.
After all, when you look at social media feeds with photos of weddings, beautiful life, and so on, you don’t think about what’s behind this beautiful wrapper, do you? And often, behind the show and living in public, they hide big problems and misfortune. People try to cover up their true tragedies in their personal lives with external glitter and tinsel.
They lead their lives for show, creating a fairy tale that they actually don’t have in life.
Therefore, just don’t believe in such pictures, illustrations, and so on. They do not always reflect real life, and you shouldn’t worry about them.
No need to worry about age, conditions, and so on. For each person, higher powers very clearly determine when he is destined to meet his destiny, his loved one and when to get married. For some this age is a little earlier, for others later - but if you are destined for this, then it will definitely happen.
And the most interesting thing is that most often this happens in positive side exactly when the girl stops rushing from side to side, worrying about stupid intrusive questions from relatives, and begins to live a calm, normal life.
It is at this moment, when she calms down and decides for herself: “That’s enough, I’ll get married when I’m destined to” - it is at this moment that fate “plays tricks” and brings your person into your life.
Very unexpected, extraordinary, and unusual.
Therefore, dear girls, just don’t listen to narrow-minded relatives, parents and friends who torment you with questions like “When will you get married?”, “When are you going to give birth?”, and other similar crap. This speaks only of one thing - about their narrow-mindedness and inability to be polite and understanding. And it’s not at all about the fact that it’s high time for you to get married.
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“How much do you earn?”, “When will you get married?”, “Why are you still without children?”...
“How much do you earn?”, “When will you get married?”, “Why are you still without children?” - you have encountered these and other questions more than once in your life. How should you respond to them?
I know people who deliberately avoid large family dinners, gatherings with relatives, or social gatherings just to avoid hearing these provocative questions. Excessive curiosity hurts and irritates precisely because the other person invades your personal space with his question. It doesn’t matter whether it’s acquaintances, distant relatives or your own parents, but if the question itself causes you confusion and discomfort, then the other person has entered territory where he does not belong. And that means you have every right to protect your borders.
Before learning how to easily parry tactless questions, let's think about why a person does this? Excessive curiosity can be a signal that the interlocutor has anxiety, internal conflict on a “sick” topic.
For example, too obvious an interest in the income of others may hide both envy and a search for solutions on how to make better money. If I'm in a difficult financial situation right now, I see money, spending, etc. everywhere. I worry so much about the future that I transfer my anxiety, dissatisfaction, envy onto others in the form of tactless remarks, etc. (from the series “our people don’t take a taxi to the bakery!”).
Another example: a super-caring mother is worried that her daughter will not arrange her personal life and will not give her grandchildren. Therefore, at every opportunity, she wonders when her beloved daughter will get married. In my opinion, her worries are not so much about her daughter, but about herself. For example, she herself started a family early out of fear of being left alone, not needed by anyone. And now, watching how her daughter at her age is not in a hurry and enjoys her life, she is faced with her doubts: “Did I do the right thing then? Maybe if I hadn’t been in a hurry, everything would have turned out differently?”
What I want to draw your attention to in these examples is that a person, being interested in something that does not concern him at all, actually demonstrates his vulnerability, unresolvedness in the topic of relationships, money, motherhood, etc. That is why his questions are so straightforward and tactless. How to react to them?
How to easily answer “uncomfortable” questions
The easiest option, in my opinion, is to openly ask “Why are you asking me this?” This way you make it clear to your interlocutor that you do not consider it necessary to answer right away, and, at the same time, turn the conversation towards him.
“I don’t consider it necessary to answer your question” is also an option to limit the interest of another person. The calmer and more confident you are, the faster unnecessary curiosity will fade away.
Tell the truth. This could be an honest and short answer, “I don’t know.” You really can’t know exactly when you will become a wife or mother. And in the same way, depending on who is asking the question, you can answer the question openly. For example, to the question “When will you become a mother?” You can honestly answer “Now I have other priorities in life. My career is more important to me now.” Sincerity combined with confidence will surprise the tactless interlocutor and put him in his place. Again, the degree of your openness is determined by you.
Mirror your interlocutor, ask him his own question or another “uncomfortable” one: “When did you..?” How much do you earn?” . By returning the faux pas, you are protecting your space and letting the other person know what it's like to be under such scrutiny.
Use jokes: “When will you get married?” -“You will be the first to receive an invitation to the wedding”; “Why have you gained so much weight? “I didn’t want to look pale compared to you.” Humor will help relieve tension in a conversation, avoid answering and show the absurdity of the question for the interlocutor.
As you can see, there are different ways to get out of an awkward situation. And whether they work or not depends on how painful the topic that others are so interested in is for you. If you are seriously suffering from the fact that you are still not married or do not earn as much as you would like, any comment on this subject will be perceived by you as “salt in the wound.” No matter how skillfully you respond, how confident or vulnerable you are will make all the difference.
Inconvenient questions confuse us, irritate us, and even can ruin our mood for a long time. Tactlessness hurts, among other things, because the questioner not only interferes in our personal life, but also at the same time evaluates and compares with public standards. Is it possible to avoid such questions? I think what's more important is how you answer them for yourself. No matter how strangers try to stick their nose into your life, they definitely won’t succeed from the moment your choice, your priorities in life take more place than the opinions of others.
What's the first thing you ask a friend you haven't seen in ages? Right! "You got married?" I hate this question! I’m tired of explaining to everyone I meet why, at 27 years old, no one has yet needed me for eternal use.
It would seem that it’s really time for me to get married, but I’m still a girl, which incredibly irritates those around me. Unlike me, they just can't come to terms with it. Recently there was a wedding in our entrance, and the courtyard gossips rushed to me shouting: “Oh, we thought it was you getting married!” Translated into human terms, this meant: “When will you, wretched one, fool some deaf-blind-mute?”
One can understand such curious people, because the statistics are on their side: the average marriageable age for St. Petersburg women is 23 years. I am almost a full five years behind this life schedule. How can compassionate gossips not worry? I am already silent about the average marriageable age of girls who marry abroad - 19.5 years. I will definitely never keep up with these! What does this mean? Was it necessary to start looking for a husband as soon as adolescence began?
I remember how at the age of 14 I staged a grandiose hoax. We were friends with Oksanka then, we were friends and friends, but one day we couldn’t share a guy.
The girlfriend reveled in her victory on the love front, because the handsome guy chose her, not me. It's a shame? Certainly! And so I meet Oksanka near the clinic and begin to weave something that you only see in tearful TV series. Allegedly, my parents want to marry me off (at the age of 14!), a rich and handsome groom has been found, he is showering me with gifts, but I am still resisting, but I feel that I will soon give in. Oksana listened, her eyes bulging and greedily swallowing my every word. I was jealous.
I almost believed this story myself. The goal was achieved: my friend no longer thought that I was worried about that guy, and she lagged behind for a long time with unnecessary questions.
If Oksanka knew that 13 years later I am still not married! The goals were different. First, finish school with a medal, then go to university, graduate with honors, and then find a decent job, earn money for an apartment, a car, and travel. But who knows what else a young, beautiful, active girl could want?
Not everyone manages to find time for the prince in their busy life schedule. And not every prince will approach such a purposeful careerist.
Most suitors prefer to ring uncomplaining whores who will humbly sit in the kitchen and wipe the noses of their joint children.
There have, of course, been hunters for my hand over the past 27 years, but so far everyone has missed. One is too jealous, the other is too soft, the third is pathologically unfaithful.
And if only I had such an assortment, I would probably agree that I am too picky. But my friends have the same problem. Fortunately, we all stand firmly on our feet so as not to throw ourselves on the neck of the first person we meet.
We have the opportunity to choose and wait. And the ability to easily get rid of unceremonious questions from others comes with age. And it improves every year!
One of my friends, tired of the annoying question about marriage, jumped out to marry a guy she met on a dating site. We were also surprised why she didn’t have a lavish wedding - after all, getting married for the first time at 29 years old is worth a lot! The answer quickly became obvious: after not having lived with her husband for even a month, her friend filed for divorce. She only needed the stamp in her passport so that those around her would leave her alone.
After consulting with the girls, we decided that this was not the best best example to follow, and decided to come up with their own ways to appease the curious.
Having scoured the Internet, we found an ironclad argument in our favor - the average age of marriage for women in some countries of the world.
According to statistics, Swedish women get married later than anyone else - at 30.4 years. Honestly, I immediately wanted to go to Stockholm for permanent residence! It would be possible to live for three more years without the annoying questions “Why don’t you get married?” But at heart I’m a patriot, so I stay in St. Petersburg and answer everyone who is curious: “I’m not getting married because I want to raise Russia to the European level.”
But what should those who have spent too much time in girls do, even according to Swedish standards? Fight back to the last and under no circumstances agree with the opinions of others! After all folk wisdom says: “If a girl decides that it’s time for her to get married, then it’s actually too late for her.”
Five ways to answer the question “Why are you not married yet?”
1. “Oh, what are you talking about, it’s still too early for me!”
To confirm your words, immediately tell us about the oldest bride in the world. This title is held by 102-year-old Minnie Munro, who married 83-year-old Dudley Reid on May 31, 1991 in Point Clare, New South Wales, Australia. So you have at least a few more decades left!
2. “Let’s think logically...”
If you wish, list the advantages of late marriage. For example, already solved housing problem and a solid wedding budget. When you are ready for marriage, financial side events will worry you less than young and penniless brides and grooms.
3. “Remind me, does your ex pay child support?”
It is clear that this argument only applies to divorced friends with children. But for sure! The conversation can end as unexpectedly as it began.
4. “No one will hire me.”
And then continue the joke: “But I’ve already posted my profile on all dating sites in the “Looking for a millionaire” section and now I’m waiting for letters.” Your friend has no idea that you told the truth!
5. “Now is not a good time because...”
There are many options: May is coming (I don’t want to suffer all my life), Lent is underway (the church does not approve of such marriages). With a broad outlook, you can come up with an “iron” excuse for any time of year.
By the way
25 years for men and 23 years for women - average age getting married in Russia.
50% of girls getting married for the first time are pregnant.
Married men are more likely to hold higher positions at work than unmarried men. Married women earn about 4-5% more than their single counterparts.
The chances of divorce are reduced by 50% if the family has existed for 7 years.
DATA
When is it customary to get married (country - average age of women getting married)
Sweden - 30.4
France - 29.1
Spain - 29.1
Australia - 28.6
Finland - 28.3
Germany - 28.2
Austria - 27.9
UK - 27.7
Canada - 27.4
Japan - 27.3
Italy - 27.1
Belgium - 26.6
USA - 25.0
Russia - 23
VERBATIM
Anna (27): “To say that I am pestered with questions about marriage is an understatement. They've already eaten a hole in my head! My father periodically grumbles that she is too picky and that her requests are overwhelming. The godfather and cousins pester me the most: “When are we going to drink vodka at the wedding?” I usually answer: “Let me just buy you a box of vodka.” But then they say: “We’re not drunks - we can’t do it without a reason.” I had to say that I was getting married in 2008. Now everyone is waiting tensely and trying to find out who he is - my hero.”
Evgeniya (29): “What bothers me most is distant acquaintances. Even if you pass by, if we meet on the street, they will definitely ask you a sacred question! And, as a rule, men. Apparently, this gives them malicious pleasure: “Aha, another one got caught!” I’m not the only one unlucky!“ At work, some people also ask, “When are we going to get you drunk?” You have to laugh it off rudely, from the series: “What did I do wrong to you?” You’ve been restrained, so at least let me run!’ This makes them very angry and helps me get out of an uncomfortable situation with honor.”
Svetlana (31): “There are men who, looking for suitors, ask why I am still not married. I answer that they don’t take it. This is usually followed by surprise: “Why? After all, she’s like that...” And they dump out a list of my merits onto three sheets. Now it's my turn. I pretend to be serious and say: “Well, marry me!” This is a low blow, but sometimes it can be useful. And if they agree, then I have to retreat.” Elena
Elena (26): “It’s an incredible coincidence, but three of my boyfriends were fond of palmistry. In my arms they saw two upcoming marriages. None of the young men wanted to be my first husband. But I believe that a civil relationship can also be called a marriage if it lasts more than a year and have emotional overtones. And you can get married at least every month.” According to materials.
It just so happened that some time ago, unnoticed even by yourself, you entered the age when, it turns out, it is already customary to be married and preferably with children. Apparently, while you were feeding your 17 cats, a certain Council of Elders was formed, which decided that from now on you can and should be reprimanded for not having a stamp in your passport. This should be done unobtrusively, so that no one suspects the existence of the Council, as if casually asking “Why are you not married yet?” Relatives from some Soldanesti have been saving money for your wedding for 10 years, your parents are worried about your glass of water before they die, and in the eyes of your friends you can see sympathy, like for starving children in Africa. You for a long time told her married friends that you don’t believe in the institution of marriage, except in its harmful influence on the relationship itself, that marriage is a formality and a tribute to the public and all that and you have already put it on.
For the most part, it is difficult for people to understand that NOT ALL girls want to get married. If a man doesn’t want to get married, that’s normal, but if a woman doesn’t want to get married, then there’s clearly something wrong with her. And at some point, everyone en masse is trying to figure out what, in the end, is wrong with you? Even men ask this completely stupid question as a “compliment”. If you are faced with this problem, I advise you to take a deep breath and read these 10 tips on how to answer the question “Why are you not married yet?”
And I can hold a man even without a stamp in my passport
“You don’t mean to say that there is some other reason for this whole farce? Come on, you are all afraid that tomorrow you will be left broke with children, a mortgage and a tarnished reputation, so you tie men to you by operating family values. I have no problem with this."
There's a curse on my family
“I haven’t told anyone this, but I like you, so listen. Many centuries ago, a young woodcutter from neighboring village. The most handsome woodcutter in both villages, all the girls gathered to watch from behind the bushes with what power he was cutting his ax into the trunks of oaks and spruces. But he was lonely, because he was friends with a local witch, whose notoriety had spread for miles and miles around. Only my great-great-great-great-great grandmother was not afraid and married the handsome man. The witch could not bear the betrayal and placed a curse on the entire woodcutter family. Since then, every girl in our family who got married, after a few years of married life, becomes a widow. For several generations now, if girls ever get married, it is only in a civil marriage. Just don’t tell anyone, I can trust you, right?”
Do you really care? I still wouldn't invite you to my wedding.
“And in general, don’t you think that such questions can only be asked by people to whom I cannot be rude? Better friends, relatives whom I did not choose, but whom I have to love, my boss, after all, what do you think about yourself? Come on, get out of my bed!”
Will you pay for my wedding?
“Nowadays everything is so expensive, and so many gluttonous relatives will want to fly to the capital for free salads and whiskey. And everyone around is greedy, nothing will pay off, and with this expensive dress, what to do then? A Honeymoon I want the Maldives to be like people’s, and not like you going to Bulgaria on hot packages.”
I can provide for myself
“If one morning I wake up with an insatiable desire to cook borscht for someone, grumble about how the apartment is always a mess, if I suddenly need a person who will constantly compare me with his mother, forget about my birthdays, give gifts on March 8 pans or tasteless underwear“I will definitely, definitely get married.”
I have psychological trauma associated with my parents
“My parents constantly quarreled and fought. I remember how little, barefoot, I ran out of the house, and through the snow, into the night, away from quarrels and screams, from the blood smeared on the walls, broken dishes, and neighbors knocking on the door. And then the police, testimony, tears, and my mother pressed me to her chest with bloody hands and said: “Don’t ever get married, daughter, they are all good before the wedding, and then they will beat you!” I remember these words so well that now I’ll definitely never be able to. Does he hit you too? No? So it will be soon."
Same-sex marriages are not officially registered in our country.
“My kitty and I are saving up for a trip to Las Vegas to finally legalize our relationship. You would know how difficult it is in our world to not be as mediocre as all of you. Everywhere you look there is condemnation. We have been dreaming for so long about our little lesbian happiness, somewhere on the ocean shore, in a small lesbian house and with many adopted children running around, who will be teased all their lives by the evil children of heterosexual parents...”
They say that married people have no sex or very little sex, so I’m in no hurry...
“By the way, don’t you regret being married? How long have you been married? And how often does this happen to you? Poor thing..."
My vibrator, unfortunately, does not have a passport.
"Once I bought small suit for Ken from a Barbie doll set, put it on my favorite vibrator, bought expensive champagne, set a luxurious table, turned on the Mendelssohn march, said “I agree!”, We kissed, had dinner and indulged in the most passionate night of love in my life. You can judge me, but I bet I have sex more often than you?”
The next 8.5 months, I'm afraid it will be difficult for me to choose a dress that fits
“Yes, you understood everything correctly. And then there’s another problem: I have no idea who the father is... or rather, who exactly. You know, we – unmarried girls – have so many promiscuous sexual relationships that we have long lost count. Every night, out of grief, we quietly cry into our pillows and envy you, the married ones. You are our standard, we dream of being like you, growing huge cheerful companies and talk about children, post all sorts of wonderful aphorisms about marriage on Facebook, put photos with wedding photo shoot... and we so fucking want people to finally stop asking us “Why haven’t we gotten married yet?”!!
