To be happy, one person needs to be warm, well-fed and a guarantee that the situation will continue. Place the other one in a warm place, give him food, slip a pillow under him and... a day later, the other one will get up and leave. Myself. Is he not the same human-animal as the first? Is it not assembled from the same chromosomes?
Sewn a little differently. He is more complex than previous versions of man. He has another need besides physical comfort. And this need is so strong that when it is not in his range of sensations from life, life does not give him pleasure. No matter how nice it may be.
This need is to be proud of yourself. He cannot sit still, not because he is uncomfortable HERE, but because WITHOUT A FEELING OF PRIDE IN HIMSELF, he is uncomfortable everywhere. An ambitious person is a earner of pride.
The missing link for happiness
A smoker needs nicotine. You can give him the most fragrant hookah without nicotine, and he will reach into his pocket and take out his stinking cigarette. For someone who is hooked on coffee, put the most delicious juice on the table, he will get up and go get some coffee. Create super-comfort for an ambitious person, and he will leave it for the unknown in search of what he lacks - what gives him a sense of pride.
How to become ambitious
– How to become ambitious if it is not in your chromosomes? If “warm and full” keeps you going?
– Just like getting hooked on coffee and cigarettes – take the first dose of pride in your achievements. Then another one. Then the next one. After several years of constant doses of pride in yourself, it is included in your metabolism and you develop a new need - to be proud of yourself. From this moment on, it becomes impossible for you to simply live warm and full.
Ambition and ambitiousness - how often do you hear this word? Perhaps there are ambitious individuals in your environment. Or you yourself are one. Either way, you stand out in the crowd. You probably know how to get what you want. Is it good or bad? How does ambition affect your life and life?
Ambition - what does it mean?
The meaning of the word “ambition” is ambition directed by a person towards. This is exactly how this word is defined today.
In the original understanding, during the time of Peter the Great, personal ambition was called a sense of honor or exorbitant ambition. Synonyms for ambition were arrogance, pride, delusions of grandeur and arrogance. In Rus', a person with inflated ambitions was called a tyrant and ridiculed.
In the USSR, ambition was also not at a price. It was not customary to stand out from others. Sameness prevailed in views, opinions, priorities and even appearance.
Only now has ambition become popular. Those with this quality are ready to do anything to achieve what they want. They maximize their abilities and talents on the way to getting what they want. They say about such people that they are ready to “gnaw the earth.”
It is worth noting that ambitions can be underestimated, overestimated and healthy.
How are human ambitions realized?
So what is ambition? This is the desire to always be the best in everything, a clear understanding of your path. On the one hand, there is nothing wrong with them. However, the attitude towards ambitious individuals is still ambiguous. This is all due to the fact that many people go over their heads towards their goal, not paying attention to the feelings, dignity, and desires of others. At the same time, deceit, arrogance, and boasting appear. So-so set of qualities, isn't it?
In addition, a person with ambitions often causes discomfort to others with his aspirations. Look at 2 situations:
- A man is obsessed with the idea of buying a new car. For this reason, he begins to save on the family budget. Naturally, his loved ones will not like this state of affairs.
- The woman set a goal to build a career. She stays late at work, doesn’t care about her spouse and possibly children, and doesn’t think that people at home are waiting for her attention. Of course, household members experience discomfort.
It seems that desires are worthy of praise. The question is how they are implemented.
What is ambition in simple words? Movement towards your goal. A person with healthy ambition reaches his or her full potential. He never stops. Having solved one problem, he moves on. An ambitious person is confident in his abilities and ability to get what he needs. In some cases, he doesn't even know how exactly this will happen. Therefore, he relies on life experience.
Brief description of an ambitious personality
A person with great ambitions can be recognized by 3 signs:
- Always busy. Spends a lot of time attending or watching online versions of trainings, seminars, and webinars on personal growth. Realizes that progress does not stand still. And therefore strives to update knowledge in all areas, including household ones.
- Has a high, adequate An ambitious person exudes self-confidence. It manifests itself in a neat appearance, posture, gait, and precision in actions. Such a person speaks about himself exclusively in a positive way. They calmly reflect any negative attacks in their direction.
- Successfully builds a career. We are not talking about talents and abilities here. Often the more talented person does not advance. An ambitious person knows exactly what he wants, is confident in his abilities and in his ultimate success.
Another feature of such individuals is. Even with setbacks and failures, they do not give up. Mistakes are experience for them. Therefore, having stumbled, they get up to continue their journey.
It's difficult to say for sure. What do you mean by ambition in a person? If this is the ability to confidently go towards achieving goals, there is nothing wrong with it. If this is arrogance, pride and arrogance, it’s worth thinking about.
In general, being ambitious is a good thing. After all, a person is constantly developing and moving forward. The problem arises when there is ambition, but the person remains stagnant.
The ideal option is that a person wants and knows how to get what he wants. This is the golden mean. There are also 2 extremes. The first is those who believe that nothing will work out. The second is inflated, naked ambitions. A person sets obviously unattainable goals and, of course, fails.
What are the types of ambitions?
There are 3 types of ambitions:
- Overpriced. An individual sets goals for himself, but cannot achieve them. He lacks time, energy, funds, and intellectual abilities. But at the same time he behaves impudently, boastfully, arrogantly. Although in reality he never achieved anything.
- Understated. There are goals, but they are too simple and are achieved instantly. A person does not want to move on, to develop. He is satisfied with the way he lives now. This can happen in any area of his life: personal relationships, career, wealth.
- Normal, adequate. The name speaks for itself. An ambitious person confidently moves towards his goals without causing discomfort to the people around him. He is smart, intellectually developed, endowed with wisdom.
Ambitions are also divided into types depending on the direction:
- Professional. Concerning career advancement. They are mainly owned by owners of companies, enterprises and offices. They strive to build a career, get a highly paid position, and have people under them. And they will get what they want. But they will have to learn to make the right decisions, to follow the right path, and not over their heads. Otherwise, they will not see a good position.
- Family. A person of this type is trying to build an ideal family. This wish can be fulfilled. But don't go to extremes. If you constantly force your soul mate to live up to a fictitious ideal, quarrels and misunderstandings will begin. As a result, the family will fall apart. Remember, there are no ideal individuals. You may also not fit someone's idea of an ideal person.
- Financial. Everyone wants to improve their financial situation. These are normal desires: to pay off debts, increase the family budget, be able to travel. But there is another side to the coin. Financial ambitions can make a person angry, greedy, even cruel.
There are also political ambitions. They are especially pronounced among politicians. Interestingly, their goal is not only to achieve certain heights in politics. They want to rule the country, gain popularity and become famous among many people. Such qualities are visible from childhood and adolescence. The teenager is interested in shows and television programs on political topics. Actively participates in school self-government organizations and is interested in social issues.
Everyone needs ambition in reasonable quantities. After all, it encourages you to move forward.
“A mind without ambition is like a bird without wings.” Salvador Dali.
This is not its only advantage:
- desire to become successful;
- the need to maintain good;
- self-development;
- achieving all set goals;
- lack of fear of difficulties;
- correct.
Despite so many positive aspects, being ambitious also has its disadvantages. A person may not get what he wants even if he works hard. In such cases, he has a number of unpleasant qualities:
- selfishness;
- arrogance;
- irritability;
- ruthlessness;
- deceit;
- uncompromisingness;
- aggressiveness.
Such people strive to manipulate others, are constantly offended, and experience difficulties in their relationships.
How ambitions are formed and what influences it
Becoming ambitious as an adult is unlikely to happen. This quality is laid down in childhood. Although there are examples of how adults completely changed themselves, developed ambition, achieved goals, and became successful. But these are exceptions to the rule.
The development of ambition in a child is influenced by 3 factors:
- Personality type. Who is a child by nature: or? The first ones always strive to be visible. They vitally need communication, recognition from others, and new experiences. Such people always have ambitions. This is their trait. In this regard, it is more difficult for introverts. They will prefer cheerful company. Will spend time with friends instead of meeting. Because of this, they have practically no ambitions.
- Self-esteem. Inflated means equally inflated ambitions. Such individuals are ready to do anything to get what they want. There is also the opposite situation. A person with low self-esteem has no ambitions at all.
- Example of parents. The atmosphere in which a child is raised has a great influence on his future. Let's say parents have achieved significant success in some area. Naturally, they will encourage the child to study well, get an education, and play sports. Parents who are pessimists and losers will raise their child to be the same as themselves.
So, it is almost impossible to form ambitions as an adult. A person is unlikely to be able to change his essence, character traits.
To realize your ambitions, you need. But only when a person has reason to hope for success. These include education, natural abilities, and constant self-development. Otherwise, it is nothing more than a mirage. Why do I need ambition then, you ask?
A clear example will help you understand how ambitions are realized. Let's take 2 friends. Let one be called Olga, and the second Tatyana. Girls of the same age. We studied at the same school. The first one was an excellent student. The second one always studied satisfactorily. Olga dreams of entering medical school. Tatyana wants to become a foreign language teacher.
After graduating from school, Olga devotes all her time to preparing for admission. Tatyana also seems to be attending courses. But one arrives, and the second does not. Can you guess who was able to achieve what they wanted? Why did this happen?
A few years later, Olga, as she dreamed, became a doctor. Tatyana put her education on the backburner, got married, gave birth to a child, and got divorced. And only after all these events she decided to try to enter the university again. This time everything worked out. But the girl did not study very well, sometimes paying extra money for tests. She received her education and became a lawyer. What do you think happened next?
Is it possible to fight ambitions?
It is possible and necessary if they create discomfort for others, interfere, or provoke the development of bad qualities. But there is one peculiarity here. The fight will be successful if you realize there is a problem. If there is no such understanding, then all actions will be meaningless.
First you need to identify positive and negative character traits. Write them down on a blank sheet of paper. Start the fight against bad qualities. Having dealt with one, proceed to the second.
Don't be discouraged if something doesn't work out for you. Analyze your mistakes and move on.
Healthy criticism from those who appreciate and love you will help in the fight against overambitiousness. Don't think that they want to offend you or prick you. Listen and then draw your own conclusions.
If your ambition is adequate, 100% consistent with your desires, there is an opportunity to realize it, there is no need to fight it.
How to spot an ambitious person
Let's look at examples:
- An ambitious woman is ideal in everything. She is a diligent housewife who takes care of her husband, children, and home. Her place is clean, breakfast, lunch and dinner are prepared. This leaves time for yourself. A woman is engaged in self-development, reads a lot, takes care of her appearance and health.
- An ambitious man can also be seen from afar. He is dressed to the nines, plays sports, and leads a healthy lifestyle. Usually such men successfully build a career and achieve a lot in life.
Those who have ambitions do not boast in vain. They work hard to achieve their goals. This does not mean that they neglect the feelings and desires of others. They make every effort to make their dreams come true.
An ambitious person has self-esteem. He will never stoop to humiliating and insulting others.
Conclusion
Every sane person should have ambition, no matter what anyone says. Only in its implementation you need to show moderation. Set goals, develop a plan to achieve them, move forward. But at the same time, remember that actions should not hurt or humiliate other people.
Ambition is the degree of human ambition, his desire to achieve goals, the desire to receive external signs of honor and respect, the dignity and pride of the individual. In other words, this is the degree of scope of the subject to achieve life benefits, professional and interpersonal fulfillment. If a subject needs very little in life, then he is considered to have little ambition. If he makes grandiose plans for personal self-determination, self-realization and aims at many things at the same time, then we can say that he has unhealthy claims or high ambitions. Thus, ambitions are considered to be the desired status of a person and the magnitude of his goals.
Realization of ambitions
Great ambitions have different meanings in different cultural and linguistic environments. In accordance with Russian traditions, which have long praised modesty, the word ambition is characterized as a heightened sense of pride, pride, arrogance, excessive claims to something. In other cultures, a person’s ambition is his motivation for success, the desire for accomplishments and achievements.
Ambition is inherent in forcing individuals to move, progress and comprehend new perspectives. And most importantly, they make people strive for goals. However, ambitions are not always positive. They act as a “virtue” only if they are justified by certain personal traits, knowledge, and education. Only when revealed in conjunction with the abilities and potential of a particular individual, as well as corresponding to his experience and level of training, is the satisfaction of ambitions realistic. Only in this case they bring success and benefit in educational activities or career.
When ambitions “were born in the sand,” they are analogous to the longed-for mirage that appears in the desert. In this case, they will only provoke negative emotions, and not only from the owner, but also from those around him. Since every society is rich in precisely such dreamers, those who are truly characterized by realistically grounded ambitions are often considered upstarts.
What is human ambition? This is what pushes individuals to achieve success, directs them towards continuous success, and gives them confidence and strength in overcoming obstacles. They are:
- healthy and destructive;
- adequate and inadequate, that is, overestimated;
- political and imperial;
- champion and careerist.
Examples of achieving ambitions. Ambitions that correspond to a person’s potential are called adequate, that is, they are real. Therefore, they almost always bring a positive result, in other words, the individual receives satisfaction because he has fulfilled his goal. Numerous studies show that an individual’s attitude that he is the best and everyone owes him, not supported by real efforts, will only lead him to arrogance and conceit. Therefore, you should set yourself only feasible tasks, otherwise you may get a completely different result than you expected. Excessively high ambitions cause a negative response in the public environment, and in addition, a negative perception of the concept of ambition itself.
Often in everyday life, ambitions are found in such areas as professional activity, family relationships, personal and self-development.
Professional ambitions will not be superfluous, even if a person is not interested in career advancement, since the modern rhythm of life does not welcome inertia. In addition, social status and material well-being are of concern to absolutely everyone, and, therefore, ambition is vital. In family life, arrogance is not the best companion, so it is recommended to learn balance so that big ambitions do not become an obstacle to family happiness, “strangling” your other half. In raising children, parents also often make the mistake of trying to realize personal ambitions in their own children. We should try to develop in children the desire for social and professional success and self-development.
It is possible to fight an inflated sense of self-esteem and high claims, but only if there is a desire on the part of the most excessively pretentious person. To this end, she will need to analyze her own activities, take an “inventory” of personal qualities in order to highlight advantages and negative traits. In addition, it is recommended to observe the behavior of successful people, highlighting in them those qualities with which they achieved success. You should also focus on their response to criticism. Successful people perceive critical statements addressed to themselves adequately. They help them improve themselves.
Realizing ambitions is often not so difficult, the main thing is that they are adequate, and it is also recommended that several conditions be met below. First of all, to satisfy your ambitions, you need to cultivate confidence in your own potential and strengths. Then you need to develop proper motivation. After all, a person strives for financial well-being not for the sake of full pockets of money, but for the sake of the freedom and opportunities that solid capital provides. The next point is a clear understanding and awareness of desires, as well as strategies for their implementation. It is necessary to learn to hear the environment in order to be able to objectively evaluate one’s own activities, understand personal abilities, and potential growth. In addition, the satisfaction of ambitions also depends on adequate goal setting. In other words, you need to strive for realistic goals, the achievement of which allows you to move forward.
What are the types of ambitions? To understand what ambitions are, you need to find out the meaning of the word ambition. In some sources, the word ambition represents a claim to something, pretension, in others - heightened, swagger, and thirdly - nobility, a sense of honor. In fact, ambition simultaneously means all of the listed qualities combined and none of them. The main determining factor in understanding the meaning of this word is the level of ambition. An overestimated level just indicates arrogance, pride, an underestimated level indicates lack of initiative, and only an adequate level is a stimulator of personal growth, success and progress.
A prosperous and self-realized individual is immediately visible. His success has its own reasons: ambitions corresponding to potential, an adequate level of self-esteem, competent motivation and goals.
Many people are convinced that ambition is an innate human trait. They are mistaken because ambition is rooted in childhood. It is in childhood that healthy or inadequate aspirations are formed. Professional sport fosters an adequate level of ambition in children, since it carries with it a competitive element and makes children strive for victory. Even if a child participates exclusively in city competitions or individual competitions, there will still be a result. Sport educates and teaches, it develops the ability to set goals and achieve them. And, in addition, it teaches you to lose with dignity and to look for experience and new motivation in losing, not tragedy.
The reasons for the ambition of adults may lie in their family. For example, a child always had the example of his successful parents, who achieved everything independently in life. In addition, a number of studies indicate that children growing up in large families are more ambitious than single children, since the desire to stand out from the “countless” brothers or sisters is an excellent motivation.
Ambition, what does it mean? In a positive sense, this concept means determination, knowledge of one’s own strengths and negative traits. However, an ambitious person will not necessarily convey a positive message when achieving their goals. It can also carry a negative charge associated with ignoring the feelings of the environment and neglecting their aspirations.
So, a person’s ambitions can be overestimated, underestimated and adequate. The latter force the individual to be invariably in a progressive movement, force him to learn new things, set himself only feasible goals (but not quite elementary ones) and achieve them. Adequate claims make it possible to find a “golden mean”, that is, a balance between real goals and the means of achieving them. Healthy or adequate ambitions are vital for the progress of the individual, for his self-development, self-realization, for his sustainable movement forward, gradually overcoming one obstacle after another.
Individuals with low aspirations are quite easy to recognize. They do not strive to overcome obstacles that arise along the path of life; it is easier for them to “go with the flow.” If such people receive a promotion, it is not due to their efforts to get it, but due to a combination of circumstances.
Subjects with little ambition usually claim less than they are actually able to achieve, what they deserve, and what specific circumstances allow. And most importantly, they receive less than they unconsciously desire. The reason for the lack of ambition is the presence, and not always justified.
Inflated claims are also not a positive quality. Often they represent an even more insidious enemy than small ambitions. High aspirations force people to set completely unrealistic goals that they are unable to achieve, which subsequently leads to an overestimation of their own potential and personal qualities. Overly ambitious subjects have very. Along with this, there is often no real evidence of existing high self-esteem. Paradoxically, excessive claims are also based on a foundation woven from fear or banal stupidity. In other words, such people are afraid to appear to themselves or their relatives as weaker than they really are. They are afraid to take responsibility for assessing the realism of their own projects, they are afraid of not mastering the details of ideas, as a result of which they avoid them. In general, people with great ambitions are far from reality, living in a world where fear reigns and fantasy reigns. They strive to solve their own problems in one fell swoop, often creating even bigger ones.
In everyday life, one can determine whether an individual’s adequate or unhealthy pretentiousness is using a part of speech such as a verb. In other words, to identify a person with adequate or understated aspirations, you just need to listen to her speech, in particular to the verbs she uses in relation to her own achievements.
Ambitious people talk about their own successes in a positive way, using perfective verbs. The fact that the individual only “stood” close to success is indicated by imperfective verbs.
You can also determine an ambitious person by her behavior. An ambitious individual always strives to be the first and the best in everything. He is purposeful, properly motivated and aimed at self-improvement.
If there is a lack of aspirations, it is recommended to interact more often with ambitious individuals. Firstly, they are an invaluable storehouse of useful and new things, and secondly, their successes are an excellent example to follow and an incentive to take action.
So, what is a person's ambition today? This is the basis of modern civilization, an asset that people can pass on to their own descendants. Do not confuse adequate claims with greed. Material well-being, stability and success in various areas cannot be achieved without healthy ambitions. Social status, career advancement, stable family relationships, a solid bank account, comfortable housing - to get all this you need ambition, the importance of which is quite difficult to overestimate, especially in the modern world, teeming with unrealized opportunities. Therefore, if a person lacks adequate aspirations, it is recommended to think about developing them.
The manifestation of aspirations is influenced by the following factors: level of self-esteem, “family heritage”, personality type, self-development (learning process).
Self-esteem is directly related to aspirations - the higher it is, the greater the ambitions will be. Family also influences ambition. Successful parents are able to instill in their children the expectation of success using the magic phrase “you must.” Children in such circumstances simply have no choice but to meet their parents' expectations.
All personalities are conventionally divided into extroverts and introverts. The first ones are more active, they are aimed at communicative interaction and the public; they need the recognition of other people like air. Introverts, on the other hand, don’t care what others think about them because they are comfortable being alone with their own thoughts.
Human ambitions require constant setting of goals and achieving them. Motivation for activity and self-confidence are generated by success caused by achieving what is planned.
Ambitions whose significance cannot always be determined solely from a scientific position. Therefore, they can be considered as a criterion of psychological health.
Ambition examples. As social consciousness changed, the meaning of the word ambition changed. The original meaning of the word ambition was negative. It was used when a person was characterized as a arrogant, arrogant, self-conscious person, suffering from heightened pride, arrogance and resentment.
Ambition - what does it mean today? Modern society interprets healthy aspirations as the desire to achieve goals, the desire to do what is planned.
Ambitions determine high demands on living conditions and its level. Today, in the realities of a progressively developing society, manifestations of human ambition can be found in almost every area of life. Although more often they are still associated with professional self-realization and career. For example, ambition often underlies people’s desire to look perfect every day, twenty-four hours a day. Among the female part of the population, ambition is often found in the desire not just to build family relationships, but to become an ideal wife, a first-class housewife and the best mother, who always manages to do everything and who is loved by everyone.
Pretentiousness begins in childhood. A child, driven by ambition, strives to get higher scores than his classmates, tries to take first place in school competitions, and tries to stand out by any means available to him.
Ambition arises in the process of education. The baby, making his first conscious actions, notices the strong reaction of his relatives to his successes, as a result of which the baby develops a need for success, which are the first childhood ambitions. In the future, children's aspirations grow in proportion to their needs. Although there are often cases when a child who has not received enough words of approval or praise from the family, becomes an adult and challenges society. He strives to prove that he is also worthy of the approval and attention of those around him.
Ambitious people are immediately visible. Typically, such individuals attend various trainings, improve themselves in the professional field, and use any opportunities for personal growth, because they understand that achieving their goals without development is impossible. To achieve unprecedented heights, you need to know more than others and be able to do “something” better than others. Ambitious individuals recognize the need to adapt to a rapidly changing social environment. At the same time, they do not lose their own individuality.
Three characteristics can be distinguished that distinguish an individual with healthy aspirations from an individual with low ambitions. Firstly, an ambitious person always strives for knowledge, since new knowledge helps him move forward. Secondly, he will never allow a disrespectful attitude towards his own person, since he has a pronounced sense of personal dignity. Thirdly, it is much easier for an ambitious person to climb the career hierarchy and achieve success. 
Ambitions are important prerequisites for a person, which determine his desire for success. Thus, we can say that they are some of the leading incentives. And in a broad sense - motives. They force us to improve, strive to earn more, live in a more prestigious house, choose a more expensive car...
And, if the concept of what ambition is is quite simple, then the definition of ambition sometimes causes problems. In the Russian tradition, which values modesty and even shyness as a certain good, ambition is seen as inflated pride, a desire for praise, and even arrogance. “A person with ambitions” - such a colloquial expression is more likely to sound in relation to someone who wants something more, not according to his merits.
In Western culture, where it has long been customary to praise oneself for one’s successes and breakthroughs, an ambitious person is, first of all, a person who strives to achieve his goals, position in society, status and reward. After all, an ambitious person will not be content with little, knowing that he deserves more.
Thus, the duality of this concept is revealed. On the one hand, ambition acts as an incentive for development, and on the other hand, as a component of narcissism and too much “exaggeration of one’s merits.”
What are they?
It is generally accepted that incentives can be underestimated, overestimated and adequate. This is primarily due to a person’s self-esteem and level of aspirations. Thus, a person with low self-esteem, who easily gives up at the first setbacks, has low ambitions. In Russian, they rather say that he is an unambitious person.
Inflated motives are often synonymous with egocentrism, and in the worst case, absolute delusions of grandeur. We also have persistent idiomatic expressions about this, such as “caught a star”, “with a star in his forehead”, “anointed”, etc. According to psychologists, the most correct are adequate ambitions, which allow you to go towards your intended goal, but, at the same time, being aware of your resources and capabilities.
Where do they come from?
This is a very complex and controversial question, since each person is unique in his own way. We can only talk about some common theories.
The pros and cons of ambition
So, back to the question: what is good and bad about ambition?
Definitely good:
When can ambition play a cruel joke?
- In interpersonal and family relationships, it is difficult to live with a “king” or “queen”. Therefore, when a life partner knows about everything in the world “how to do better,” he is often forced to “turn around alone.”
- When raising children, when we transfer our unfulfilled dreams onto them. They become hostage to our ambitions, but it is worth asking: what do they want? And in reality, is it really so important for a child, driving himself to exhaustion, by hook or by crook, to be the first excellent student at school?
- And, finally, inflated motives also interfere with work, when you need to hear and accept more rational proposals from others, and this encounters internal protest.
How to become ambitious and develop adequate ambitions?
Demonstrating ambition in various areas
In fact, we have motives in all areas of life:
- at work: and it doesn’t matter if we dream of becoming a big boss, or getting a salary increase;
- in everyday life: you can live for forty years with your parents or not see new renovations in your house, but is it worth it? If there is ambition, this question will be answered decisively;
- in sports: for some only first places, and for others – health and good mood, and everyone has their own ambitions;
- in personal relationships: and here it is important not to overdo it, because a native tit is sometimes more valuable than a hundred cranes;
- in interaction with friends: Donald Trump, for example, advises to be friends only with successful people, arguing that “losers” infect bad luck. We won’t argue, but the level of ambition is obvious. Let's hope that readers have a more adequate level of them in order not to lose all their friends.
Inadequate ambitions - what is it?
Most often, when assessing the adequacy of ambition, people assess its purpose. But often what is important is not the goals themselves, but the extent to which they have or do not have a real way to achieve them. This is the fine line between adequacy and inadequacy of ambition. Let us remember the eternal work “The Tale of a Real Man”; didn’t the ambitious desire to fly without two legs remind many of inadequacy? And yet, the goal was achieved thanks to the invented action plan.
And, of course, you yourself can remember the example of your classmate or neighbor, who said that he wanted to “bathe in luxury,” without having any strategy for achieving such an ambition. Most likely, he either has not achieved anything, or is already serving time in places not so remote.
Arrogance, swagger, the belief that the whole world “owes something” - these are signs of a person’s inadequate ambitions, even if we are talking about very real things. And confidence, a plan and a strategy of action are signs of adequacy even with the most, at first glance, impossible goals.
Implementations and examples in history
A little ugly girl became a symbol of femininity named Marilyn Monroe, an actor became the president, a black boy became the king of pop music. There can be many examples of the realization of ambitions: any Olympic champion is proof of this.
But it is worth recalling examples of the realization of super-ambitions, because of which Napoleon, Hitler and many of their comrades dragged thousands of people into bloody wars. So, if your casual acquaintance expresses an ambitious idea about world domination, do not laugh, but think carefully about whether he has an action plan in the form of explosives hidden in his pocket.
Why are people afraid to set ambitious goals?
However, not everything is so pessimistic. It's worth setting ambitious goals. Because they sometimes motivate people to personal achievements and significant development. Why then are some people afraid to set ambitious goals?
Psychologists talk about a “comfort zone” in which a person feels good. We can admire the success of some business woman a thousand times, but we don’t want to spend more time on work than on our loved one. We can gasp at our friend’s career rise, but we don’t want to lose beer and football every weekend. Ambitious goals force you to mobilize, get together and act: constantly, overcoming yourself and your laziness. But the last time is much more pleasant.
There is another point - lack of faith in one’s own strength. If a person is convinced that nothing will work out, he will not try. All energy will go into finding excuses. You shouldn't try to deal with this on your own. It is best to seek advice from a psychologist. After all, such suggestions can have their roots in distant childhood and be associated with very significant people. And working with them is not at all easy. But probably.
Ambitions... What to do with them? Where should I put them? It's so bad to be ambitious!
That’s what I thought for most of my life, sincerely believing that ambitions are harmful and what the hell, shove them away, Seryozha!
This often happens when, relying on someone else’s opinion and experience, we pick up an idea and carry it like a flag, without thinking about its truth, value for us and our lives.
This is what happened with my ambitions. Having chosen the side of ambition that was beneficial for me then, I didn’t really strive for anything and didn’t stick my head out, I put my desires far away, feeling insignificant and modest.
This continued until I began to reflect and go deep within myself, awakening my truth with the help of basic TOT meditation.
What is ambition for me now?
Ambition- this is the desire to express and manifest myself, to know what I want and to realize my plans in life. This is strength and self-confidence, masculine energy.
Of course, you will have your own image of ambition and truth, and if it is important for you to sort everything out in your inner world and open your knowledge, I suggest you reflect on the topic of ambition, and I will continue!
At the heart of ambition is the desire for power, for the conquest of territory, the so-called instinct of “power” and how we use and manage it has a significant impact on the quality of our lives.
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There are two types of ambition:
- adequate(managed, recognized)
- inadequate(uncontrollable, suppressed)
Adequate ambitions expressed as follows: I know what is important to me, I live my life, I recognize my responsibility for the realization of my plans and dreams, I respect myself and others, I feel supported and supported.
Inadequate ambitions: the desire to control oneself and others, argue and prove one’s rightness, win at any cost and assert oneself, conflict and perfectionism
What to do if you find that ambition is controlling you or you are suppressing it?
- If you saw this and honestly admitted it to yourself, congratulate yourself and hug yourself! You have already done a lot! Accept your ambitions and let them be within you, as male energy that wants to manifest itself.
- Pay more attention inward(reflect and meditate), practice self-love and compassion, acknowledge your feelings and emotions. Feeling love for yourself, you will look less for it on the side, less likely to control yourself and others, and stop striving to obtain a surrogate of love at the expense of power. Participants in the TOT School, awakening images and connecting with their soul, remember their natural ability to love, feel and express themselves.
- Think about what is dear and valuable to you and choose the vector of your movement in life. By directing the instinct of power to the realization of your goals and objectives, you will be freed from the desire to argue and assert yourself, to look for flaws in the lives of other people.
On the topic of values, we conducted an intensive course “Your values are your beacon of life,” where all participants realized their priorities and desires.
When I gave myself permission to be ambitious, it immediately affected my productivity and fulfillment.
I felt confident and alive, loving courage and activity, I began to easily declare myself to the world and talk about my desires, demonstrate charisma and show masculine energy.
All the resources for your happy and easy life are within you! It’s enough to be honest with yourself, open to life and love all your choices and states!
If you strive for inner harmony and intend to be bright, manifest and understand yourself, I invite you (today I can take a few more people at a special price).
