You've probably met people who work in one place for 10-15 years and clearly don't want to change the situation. It seems that the conditions are no longer satisfactory, and the salary does not allow you to feed your family, and something is stopping you from starting to look for a new job.
And some people just can’t start at all. University or maternity leave It’s long over, it’s time to go to work, but for some reason I can’t go. At home it’s calmer, warmer, more comfortable, no one pushes you, you don’t have to fight for a place in the sun. Someone will feed me.
Not everyone realizes that this is fear of new job or fear of work in general, that “I’m afraid to work” in this case determines the trouble in their life. Or maybe you are also one of the people who say: “I want to change jobs but I’m afraid”?
How to overcome fear of a new job? When something new is scary
And after all, there is a completely different example before our eyes, when cunning and mobile representatives of humanity change jobs almost monthly in search of a better life. For some reason they have no fear of work. They even enjoy this process. And they are always hired, despite the fact that in terms of professionalism they are no match for you.
And although you are a true professional, and know your job and bring it to perfection, for some reason you are not confident in yourself and are afraid to go to work. It is generally difficult for you to change anything in your life. After all, it is unknown what awaits you in a new place. And how many fears immediately fall on you! This is both fear of the boss and fear of the new team. “I’m afraid to lose my job”, “I’m afraid to change my job”, “I’m afraid to look for a job”... It seems to you that there is no way out of this impasse.
And if it suddenly happens that you have changed jobs, then new wave uncertainty: “I’m afraid to start working”, “I’m afraid to work”... That is, there are fears of not being able to cope with the work. What pleasure is there in such a life?
How to overcome fear of a new job? Understand your properties!
According to system-vector psychology, the fear of going to work is inherent in people with certain mental properties. On the one hand, this is very good specialists, experts in their field. They work carefully, cleanly, slowly. Always excellent. On the other hand, they have difficulty starting a new business and tend to become attached to traditions, patterns, and established routines once and for all. These are people of past experience. Everything new scares them. A new job is always a lot of stress and a huge challenge for them.
Their feeling of “afraid to go to work” is based on the fear of disgrace. They love to do everything right, absolutely, and really don’t like making mistakes. This is who really “measures seven times and cuts once.” But when these people do not realize their properties and do not realize their potential, they only begin to “measure” without “cutting off” anything. That’s when it starts: “I’m afraid to look for a job, I’m afraid to change jobs.” I'm afraid to work - I'm afraid to live!
How to overcome fear of work and gain self-confidence
Is it possible to get rid of such indecision? After all, such a situation deprives a person of the happiness of realizing his best qualities. And this is a painful blow to the fate of any adult member of society. Instead of feeling like a full-fledged citizen, a reliable family man, capable of feeding his family, he lies on the couch and is angry at the whole world.
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“I am a linguist by training, a teacher of foreign languages... Very often, when I needed to express my thoughts in a simple, relaxed form, I came across difficulties not only of an educational nature, i.e. lack of knowledge or skills, and also strange feeling their personal insufficiency and inferiority. This really hindered me in communicating with native speakers.
If I made a mistake or didn’t know something, then I had a feeling inside me. strong tension. I thought that I looked very stupid, and if something depended on me, then everyone would start cursing me at worst, and making fun of me at best. Many people told me that my academic knowledge of languages is very good, but implementing this knowledge, meaning conversational (speech) competence, always seemed to me completely impossible.
I tried to work in companies, in those where the requirements were not very strong, or in an enterprise where I was hired by family, but all such work did not bring me much satisfaction. I believed that I was capable of more, but something inside was constantly getting in the way. Some kind of heavy, clumsy lump of some opinions, judgments that I am not good enough, that I do not have enough knowledge and experience, that I will not be paid well enough, since I am not purposeful.
After the training on system-vector psychology by Yuri Burlan, first after free trainings, and then reinforced by free skin and anal lectures full course, I had some kind of regrouping of attitudes and efforts within my being. I decided that in my place I could explain and teach people no worse than others... And it so happened that my inner critics-cockroaches were caught by a sudden death... I suddenly felt that I could communicate with foreigners quite calmly, even if I did something I don’t know and I’m not yet able to express it without feeling a crushing sense of guilt from my incompetence.” (Pavel Shirmanov)
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Fear of failure
We are often afraid of failure when we take on new assignments. It happens that people are attuned to this fear in the morning and for this reason they refuse new work, try to shift it to others, and get angry for no reason. Find out what is the reason for this fear. Perhaps, in order to cope with the task more successfully, you should learn and improve your skills. Or the person is a perfectionist by nature. Or maybe you’re just tired and it’s time to go on vacation?
Fear of luck
There is also such fear - fear of success. A person is afraid to take responsibility for future achievements and fame. He is afraid of responsibility. But you can’t do the same work you know well all the time. Otherwise there will be no growth. Overcome your indecisiveness and achieve new achievements!
Fear of criticism
The fear of being ridiculed by colleagues or displeasing a boss often prevents a person from being natural. This creates even more problems. Figure out why criticism scares you and how you behave if you are criticized. Maybe we really should work better? If you think that criticism is unfounded, this is a reason to have a serious conversation with your boss or colleague.
Fear of competition
You are afraid that someone will do the job better and faster than you, so you rush and make mistakes. You are afraid that someone will take your position, and you are constantly looking for potential enemies. This breeds suspicion and scares others away. You must try to objectively assess your capabilities and admit to yourself that you are an indispensable employee. And it’s better to make possible competitors friends
Fear of the boss
Many people are speechless in front of their boss. Some bosses are so authoritative and impressive that there is no desire to argue with them. And it is necessary. Overcome your fear of your boss by arguing. Have the nerve and allow yourself to say no sometimes. Remember: your boss is also a person and can make mistakes.
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The number of people aged 30 who want to change their profession increases by 5% annually. Main reasons: low wage or an error when choosing an activity. Many people, out of fear of failure, do not dare to take such a responsible step, but this is a psychological problem and it can be solved.
Instructions
Clearly outline your goal: who do you want to work as, where, what salary to receive, what heights to achieve career ladder. Write all this information down on a piece of paper. In other words, visualize the image.
Decide on the resources available - what can you already do? Record this information on the left side of the paper (education, work experience). On the right - what is missing.
You can, of course, decide to go to university. But is it worth it?
It is at this stage that it is important to choose the right means to achieve the goal. If there higher education, accordingly, the foundations have been laid. If little experience work is present - also excellent. Then you need to bring existing knowledge into the system and supplement it with new ones. Therefore, it is best to enroll in courses and improve your qualifications to the required level.
Start small. Get your dream job in a small role. At work, it is important to establish yourself as a competent and competent specialist. The management will certainly appreciate this, and promotion will not be long in coming.
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Some women are terrified of giving birth. For some girls, this fear stops them on the path to happy motherhood; for other representatives of the fair sex, the fear of childbirth poisons all the joy of the pregnancy period and overshadows the anticipation of the long-awaited event.
Support Group
The fear of childbirth can be eased when you have family and friends nearby who can support you. To a large extent, what mood will you have expectant mother, depends on her husband. He also has the function of calming his wife down.
Talking to your mother or a friend who has already experienced the joys of motherhood can help you overcome your fear of childbirth. You can also seek advice from professional psychologist. At the antenatal clinic, there is usually an office of such a specialist, whose main goal is to work with pregnant women and their fears.
Maximum information
Perhaps you are afraid to give birth because you have seen enough films where women in labor bled and screamed throughout the house, and you have also heard enough stories about difficult births. If you have already begun to be interested in the process of childbirth, study it thoroughly.
Find special literature and read what exactly happens to a woman in labor. How natural this process is, and how female body adapted for the miracle of birth, the way the body adapts to the baby should reassure you.
Focus on the Positive
Try to think more not about the upcoming birth, but about the happiness that begins after it. Instead of indulging in your phobia, start preparing a dowry for your child, think about how you will take care of his health and development.
Find one for your future baby beautiful clothes, crib, stroller, playpen. Prepare a nursery or part of your bedroom for him. Such pleasant chores should put you in a positive mood.
In addition, towards the end of pregnancy, a woman may find it difficult to walk with a large belly and experience the discomfort typical of the third trimester. Think of childbirth as a release from your suffering and the beginning of a new period in your life.
Trust doctors
Don't forget that medicine is constantly evolving. Those women who gave birth five to ten years ago did not have the opportunity to take advantage of the latest developments in the field of obstetrics that exist now. New equipment, other drugs, increased qualifications of gynecologists - all this will be to your advantage.
Listen to your doctor and attend prenatal classes. Here you will learn how to breathe correctly during childbirth and learn what exactly depends only on the mother. Since you have a certain degree of responsibility, you simply have no right to fear.
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Almost every person experiences fear of old age - and this is normal. You just have to figure out in what form this fear haunts you. Because, as a rule, people are afraid not of old age itself, but of its consequences.
Fear of old age
Some people are frightened by weakness and hopelessness, others by age-related changes, and still others by the fear of loneliness and disappointment in their lives. Therefore, in order to overcome the fear of old age, you need to carefully analyze your inner state and find out what exactly scares you so much.
When will you find out the real reason your worries and experiences, you will be able to successfully fight it.
But still, there are several universal tips, following which you can understand yourself and stop feeling afraid of approaching old age.
What should be done?
Soberly assess your current age, there is no need to hide it and be ashamed. You definitely won’t become any younger, so you should just admit that age-related changes are inevitable and take it for granted. Now, of course, the beauty industry offers many ways to rejuvenate, but if you cannot accept the fact that old age is inevitable, you will feel discomfort even after all the anti-aging procedures.
Movement is life. The more active your lifestyle, the longer you will stay young. Physically active people look much younger than their age, and they don't have time to sit around and feel sorry for themselves. It's about not only about playing sports, any light physical work gives a boost of vigor, health and Have a good mood. So, if you want to overcome the fear of old age, move more and prolong your youth.
By the way, intellectual activity is no less useful; it’s not for nothing that all energetic older people love to solve crosswords and play chess.
Communicate. The most important thing is your environment, look who you communicate with. The more new acquaintances and pleasant encounters you have in your life, the longer you will feel young. Basically, the fear of old age haunts single people. Afraid of losing their former attractiveness, they are simply afraid of being left completely alone. But even if it didn’t work out family relationships, look around, because there are so many lonely people in the world who will probably be happy to communicate with you.
And to certainly overcome the fear of old age, find yourself a favorite activity and enjoy the fruits of your creativity. Passionate people remain young for a long time, even if not physically, but in their souls; they are not tormented by worries about their age, they simply do not notice it.
And, of course, the role of the family is important. If you are surrounded by loving, understanding and caring people, age-related changes are much easier to accept.
Old age is not about how you look, but about how you feel. He who does not grow old in soul does not grow old in body.
One of the problems that women face is the fear of going back to work after maternity leave or several years of running the house exclusively.
Most often, this is the fear that during maternity leave all skills and abilities have been forgotten; the woman worries that all these months she has not grown professionally. In addition, the thought does not leave me that if the child gets sick often, she will have to go on sick leave, and because of this she will be fired.
A woman who is a housewife has a different fear: she is afraid that she may not be accepted in the team, that she will not be able to find a common language with new people, that she will do something wrong or say something wrong and will look stupid because of this.
As a rule, the fear that a person, especially a woman, experiences is caused not by real dangers, but by far-fetched ones. In other words, most fears are a figment of our imagination, which does not have a sufficiently real basis. What to do in such a situation? How to overcome fear and easily integrate into work or new team? How to adapt to a forgotten or new way of life.
Write down your fears. Take a piece of paper and divide it into three columns. In the first, indicate what you are afraid of, that is, make a list of your fears in descending order according to the strength of the fear’s influence on you. In the second, write down the reasons for each fear.
What is it based on, why do you think this could happen, have such cases happened to you or did someone just tell you about it? It is possible that as you write, you will realize that many fears are far-fetched and in fact there are no good reasons for them. In the third, write possible, in your opinion, ways to get rid of fear.
For example. If you are afraid that your professional skill has been lost and you have become incompetent in a number of issues, first before going to work, study the necessary professional literature, make a list for yourself of what you need to read in order to restore your knowledge. Is there a fear that your child will get sick often?
Look Labor Code under articles “dismissal”. in order to understand how much this fact may be a valid reason for dismissal. Or: you are a housewife. never worked, and now you are afraid that you will make mistakes. Understand the main thing for yourself: every person once went to work for the first time and everyone made mistakes. But a mistake is an experience that gives us growth and development, so there is nothing terrible, and even vice versa: after all, those who do nothing do not make mistakes. But to get rid of the fear of not being accepted by the team, you can do the following: write down your strengths and determine which of them can help you easily adapt to a new team.
Look at this list, read it several times, and then you will understand that you have what will help you fit into the team and earn the respect of new people.
Use auto-training 
Fear is a sign of uncertainty and doubt in one's strengths and abilities. Therefore, in order to eradicate it, you need to gain self-confidence. Speak positive affirmations (beliefs) daily, and they will gradually grow in your mind faith in yourself and in your strength.
These could be the following formulations: “I am a confident woman, I do everything easily, I quickly learn new things and easily find a common language with new people.”
Develop positive thinking
It helps to see the positive aspects if a person makes mistakes or some undesirable situation arises.
Use imaginative exercises
It refers to the subconscious, which, in turn, controls many of our actions, actions, including feelings such as fear, uncertainty, and doubt.
For example: “Sit comfortably in a chair, close your eyes and begin to imagine the situation that you are afraid of, but not in the context of your supposed thoughts, but in the format of how you would like it to actually be.
You need to imagine positive picture“in which you are successful, everything works out easily for you.”
Therefore, people spend 10 and more years. However, it also happens that after a long length of service in one company, a person has to change jobs for some reason. Finding yourself again, after a long break, in the role of a job seeker, a person experiences incredible stress and fear of a new job.
Leading HR specialists argue that in order not to lose your skills and remain a valuable specialist, you need to change your job every 3-5 years. But how do you decide to leave your favorite place? In fact, it is very difficult to decide to change your place of employment: it seems that you cannot cope with the job, that you do not have enough knowledge, or that suddenly you will make a mistake at the first working week and ruin your entire reputation. However, you must fight your fears, otherwise they will poison your life and prevent you from moving forward. The best cure for your phobia is to face it head on.
It often happens that even if it is possible to change their current job to a similar one, but in a larger and more successful company, people do not do this. The reason for everything is again multiple fears: not being able to cope with the amount of work, not fitting into a new team, not being found common language with management and so on. Of course, it is always difficult to get along with new people, especially difficult when the team is established and united. And indeed, psychologists confirm that at first I perceive any newcomer as a threat. The team doesn’t know you or what they can expect from you. The best strategy will allow those around you to get used to you, get to know your habits, in turn, you should not show external uncertainty and emotional sensitivity to the opinions of other people.
As for fear of your boss, it can overtake you not only when changing jobs. The issue of the “manager-subordinate” relationship is quite complex and has many nuances. Still, it is important to remember that your boss is, first of all, a person who should guide you and even help you in your work. If the manager is tyrannical, insults and gets personal, it is better to find another job than to endure endless stress.
How to conquer your fears:
1. Separate the wheat from the chaff.
Most fears are irrational and have nothing to do with the real state of things. Try to calmly think about your phobias and find confirmation for them. This way you will determine for yourself what you really need to work on.
2. We work on our strengths.
To get rid of the fear that you won’t be able to cope with a new job, experts suggest writing down all your competencies, skills and all the work you did at your previous place of employment. Once you have documented all your strengths, you will have clear evidence that you are a qualified professional and have nothing to fear.
3. Moral preparation.
This is perhaps the most important part in the fight against phobias. Program yourself for success, think positively, don’t think out of nowhere - you will definitely overcome all difficulties and fit into the new team. Even if you fail, don't blame yourself. Remember that work should not be hard labor for money, it should bring moral satisfaction and be psychologically comfortable.
Ergophobia– this is a fear of work, of performing any purposeful actions that require special skills, abilities, knowledge and diligence. Many people call this laziness, but this is far from true. This is an irrational chronic fear of work. Ergophobes feel anxious about work and everything that is somehow interconnected with it.
Ergophobia can combine several phobias, for example: glossophobia (fear of public speaking), atychiphobia (fear of failure), (fear of performing social activities or performing in public). Ergophobia is also called ergosiophobia, which translated from Greek means work and fear (“ergon” - work, “phobos” - fear).
Ergophobia causes
Ergophobia is an unreasonable, overwhelming fear of work. A person suffering from ergophobia fears that he is completely incapable of working, performing official duties, job descriptions. Such a person is often characterized by intolerance towards his own failures at work. Some people are afraid of checks or meetings at work. They usually share their fear with colleagues. Fear of work, like any other type of phobia, simply drives a person crazy. He is in constant tension due to a feeling of fear, fear of losing control and not coping with the situation.
At the heart of any irrational, reckless fear there are always strong emotions. However, in the case of ergophobia, emotions are always negative, since they are the cause of unconscious fear. The reasons for the appearance of ergophobia, as a rule, can be: strong feelings of an individual before an upcoming task, for example, before a job interview. To reduce anxiety and keep it to a minimum, you need to start by searching for any information about the upcoming job. Since, by implementing practically received information, the individual feels much more confident. After a certain period of time, any person, even an ergophobe, working in a new place, will begin to consider himself a professional and will not be afraid to conduct experiments related to his work activity.
A person suffering from ergophobia is constantly afraid that he will not succeed and that the work will remain undone. He thinks that he can disrupt everything, ruin it, that someone will have to redo all the work for him from the beginning. If failures in professional activity If the ergophobe is relentlessly pursued, then he thinks that he is doomed to failure, and will not even try to change anything or take action to turn circumstances in his direction. So, for example, an ergophobe will not try his abilities and skills in a different direction. In situations where an individual constantly analyzes failures that occurred earlier, but does nothing, he is most likely to develop ergophobia. In some cases, frequent checks or commissions at work may be the cause of ergophobia.
The cause of ergophobia can come from childhood, if one of the parents had a similar phobia. Parents can infect their children with their phobias.
Another cause of ergophobia is various injuries received during work. The injury can be physical or mental. For example, a person, while working at a factory, caused himself a serious injury using a machine. In principle, injury at work is not at all uncommon. The whole problem is that each individual reacts completely differently to seemingly similar things or situations. Some people will become more cautious after suffering a trauma, while others, on the contrary, will quit their jobs. It is precisely this category of people that becomes the prime candidates for acquiring ergophobia.
Also, people at work may suffer from insults, humiliation, being overly busy, or due to non-standard work. In addition, ergophobia can arise due to a lack of knowledge and skills, as a result of which a person begins to fear that he will not be able to cope with the work entrusted to him. Mostly, ergophobia affects shy individuals who experience extreme anxiety in a situation where they need to help their work colleagues.
Even if absent apparent reason When an irrational phobia occurs, the individual may feel restlessness, anxiety, and emotional turmoil that undermines their ability to function normally.
Often the cause of unconscious fear of work can be dismissal. If a person has been fired before, he may have difficulty finding new employment due to fear of being kicked out again.
Often the cause of fear can be a boring work activity. If the subject began his labor activity from uninteresting, boring, monotonous work, then he may have a stereotype that any work will be boring.
Depressive conditions are often the causes of ergophobia. For example, clinical illness, mourning, or other similar disorders may cause the subject to lose incentive to work.
Ergophobia symptoms
The fear of work is always quite noticeable to others. It is almost impossible for an individual to hide such an irrational, unconscious fear, since his attitude towards work becomes obvious. However, the exacerbation and appearance of ergophobia is not very common. The subject can secretly experience fear, torment and suffer, but at the same time meticulously perform his official duties. However, if a person suffering from ergophobia is suddenly called to his superiors, even if the reason is insignificant or to be assigned a new task that seems quite difficult and troublesome to him, then the manifestation of all the signs of fears that are typical of phobias is not excluded.
The most common symptoms of ergophobia include a number of specific signs. An ergophobe, experiencing fear, begins to sweat profusely, nausea occurs, the heart rate accelerates, weakness and trembling of the limbs appear. Also, dizziness, redness of the skin, and a sharp deterioration in health are often noted.
In addition to physiological symptoms, mental manifestations are also observed. An individual susceptible to ergophobia begins to feel that something terrible is about to happen. From a feeling of fear, he completely loses control over himself and self-control. From the outside, it seems that such a person is simply behaving inappropriately.
Hello! I am 25 years old. I am writing with tears. As a child, my mother always told me that I was a failure, your bad taste was of no use (I was constantly in pain, offended). Every day she told me these phrases. I was constantly bullied. This phrase has been in my head all my life. I’m just writing and crying. But I was not like that, I always helped my mother, with the children I did all the cooking and cleaning myself. Now I have adulthood got married, thank God she gave birth beautiful girl. Now I want to work, but I can’t. I’m afraid to work, I’m constantly thinking, what if I can’t do it, I don’t have experience, how will I work there? Sorry if I have spelling errors. Help me please, I really really want to work.
Hello Aya. “I’m afraid to work, I’m constantly thinking, what if it doesn’t work out for me” - Take it more simply: if it doesn’t work out, it won’t work out - quit. But you will have something to personally praise yourself for - you overcame fear and got a job.
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What a useful article... I'm tired of feeling terrible. On this moment I’m in a phase of exacerbation.. I in no way justify my inaction, but... at least now I’ll stop blaming myself that I’m like this, that I live worthlessly. Since childhood, there have been difficulties in life, but I tried to overcome them as best I could. I finished school very well, I entered the university the first time, but having previously trained in vocational school to overcome my phobias, because I was not sure that I would enter immediately after school with a strange uncertainty, unjustified. I had problems at the institute, I dropped out of the university twice, but I recovered and graduated. I defended my diploma well. I was inspired. I got a job that was a little outside my profile, it lasted me for six months, thanks to intrigues I survived, I was afraid of the competition, but I have zero experience, with good potential, but there was no help. Okay, I swallowed it and went to another job. Again women's team It seemed to me that I got along with almost everyone. It wasn't easy, but I tried. After a few years, I got a taste for it, I began to succeed, my uncertainty disappeared, initiative and approval from my superiors appeared. My sudden dismissal due to downsizing knocked the ground out from under my feet. Fired without explanation. A few years later the management changed, and I was invited again, every year. I couldn’t return there... I tried to work in a couple of other places, but any failure plunged me into stress, turning me into a strange employee. I left on my own, coming up with reasons. I didn’t think that my layoff would have such an impact on my attitude at subsequent jobs. I am at home now. I annoy my family and myself. I’m not even trying to get a job. Just the thought of this fills me with stupor and quiet horror. But more than anything else, I can’t stomach psychologists..... what should I do?
Hello! Thank you very much useful information. Indeed, every second person can now say that he has this disease. Including me. But in my case, the problem concerns not only work (profession), but also other issues, in particular: household chores, activities foreign language, sewing, cooking, communicating with a child. In general, no matter what I touch, what I don’t want to do at a certain moment, I can’t; I can't even bring myself to start. I suspect more serious problems with mental health. But I can’t even just force myself to go to a psychotherapist (I was unsuccessful attempt with a very respected specialist in our city).
My question is this: is a consultation possible (online or via e-mail) with your specialist?
Thank you.
I would recommend doing yoga. I don’t know how miraculously this happens, but it really works; in my case, this phobia has poisoned me since childhood and throughout my life. Now it’s been a year since I regularly practice yoga and I noticed that these and many other fears gradually began to disappear and self-confidence began to appear.
I also have this along the way... acquired... and all because I seem to have overworked it. For a long time I lived with work and work. Late nights and weekends.. you need to love yourself. Respect. This is the only way to survive. And don’t turn yourself away from work completely. And the most terrible thing, in my opinion, is a team accustomed to being friends against someone. Disgusting. Whispers behind your back. I can't participate in this. It's disgusting as hell. And this is truly scary. Let them be at all jobs good people. Just people who respect themselves and therefore don’t say nasty things about others. We shouldn't turn into animals. Never and not for any money. Forgive me for this cry from the heart. I carried it inside for too long.
I came across this article completely by accident and was simply amazed how everything fits together! Now I know what's wrong with me! It started 5 years ago! As soon as I entered the office, my head immediately began to feel dizzy and a pre-fainting state appeared that did not go away throughout the entire working day! I had to quit! Now everything is clear to me!
People, these fears of yours before work are normal, you shouldn’t consider it a pathology. The thing is that the conditions that are created at work in general, everywhere they are initially unfriendly. Especially in modern bourgeois society, when everyone only thinks about how to earn money more money and usually at the expense of others. At the same time, using dishonest methods and a disregard for subordinates. Every job requires obedient slaves. To work well and efficiently, and at the same time pay them pittance salaries. What is the secret of rich people? Yes, in exploiting the labor of other people. Therefore, when it comes to money, people don’t care, they are just consumables for employers. When you get a job, you work for someone else’s business, line the pockets of your owner (employer), and he shares with you the crumbs from the master’s table in the form of a salary. And the employer also imposes a bunch of requirements, for example, they want such personal qualities as: communication skills, resistance to stress, energy, an active life position, the ability to multitask, and cope with large amounts of information. In a word, you must be an effective energizer slave, with an active life position and be happy to work for pennies. I don’t know what to advise, maybe you should try to understand yourself and understand what kind of work is more tolerable for you, what you could cope with and what causes less anxiety and worry.
I agree with you. Everything you wrote the real truth. I am saved in this situation by faith in God. I go to church for confession and it supports me and calms me down. I think that tomorrow will be better than now and that all people are like me, made of the same stuff. I have nothing to fear from them, I love them all. And the Bible says, “Your mouth will make you work.” You will want to eat, you will start working and all phobias will go away.
Nikolay, it’s just super how you laid everything out. Now almost 90 percent, in addition to state employees, work for private owners. They really don't care. As long as it works and makes a profit. This phobia developed gradually for me, the fact is that I am really too responsible and they began to put more and more pressure on me, and I can’t just do my job poorly on the o….os as people say. And so it began to seem to me that I didn’t have time, I was afraid of doing something wrong. But after a terrible hypertensive crisis, I reconsidered my attitude; no, I did not work carelessly. But I have an internal dialogue with myself all the time. Why do you need this, I can do anything and I’ll do it calmly, but if I don’t do it, it won’t matter, the world won’t collapse, they’ll wait. I stopped doing other people’s work, I just don’t notice it, a careless worker has to do it himself. Although I’ll be honest, during treatment for the crisis, the doctor prescribed me Anvifen. Now I don't drink it. The main thing is to understand where this fear comes from. Great article.
I understand YOU all perfectly well, how can I go to work, my head hurts every day, my heart is beating, I overcome my feelings, every day I say to myself, this is some kind of hell, I don’t sleep at night, I already had a psychologist, now I’m trying without a psychologist , everything in my soul was sorted out and put on shelves. IT'S SCARY TO GO TO WORK. Everything has been going on since my childhood, but my parents deny it, and they are skeptical about psychologists, and strictly, everything happened by chance, I ended up seeing a psychologist. THIS IS ALL THE PROGRESS of the world, things, phones, sex. THESE PEOPLE ARE ANIMALS, they treat each other this way, that’s why the psychologist instructs you to trust only yourself, then parents wonder why children treat their parents this way, go to a psychologist, IN SECRET! THIS IS YOUR LIFE. LOSE THE PLEASURES OF LIFE DUE TO PARENTAL PROHIBITIONS. THE PARENTS THEMSELVES ARE UNCONSCIOUS.
I don’t know about other people, but when I hear the word *work* or the phrase *I need to get a job* the only symptoms listed are dizziness, sweating, heartbeat quickens, but there is something else, sometimes I start to choke and almost always start to get sick head and there is simply a desire to run *wherever your eyes look* as they say.
I explain this to myself only by disappointment in life and people. How many people (children are people too) while studying at school were faced with a situation where a person did everything correctly, or answered there, and the teacher bullies him, gives him low grades, and then gives good grades to another person who did nothing? for cronyism, or because of personal sympathy for a person? Do you want to know where children are mutilated? - answer initial and high school, we need enhanced control over testing teachers, not on their knowledge, but on their psychological condition. I’m keeping quiet about the society in which a very different individual may end up, and in the future, thanks to all of the above, a sociopath.
Z.Y. Studying is the same job.
Hello, I now understand that I am not the only one and that such a disease as ergophobia exists. I believe that ergophobia is inherited, because from the very early childhood I suffer from these panic attacks before performing in public. I ran away from kindergarten, then I was afraid to go to class if I was late. To my surprise, I graduated from the pedagogical institute and received a diploma, but those were painful times. Now it’s been a year since I graduated from university, but I still haven’t gotten a job because I’m afraid to join a new team again and I’m afraid to seem illiterate and incapable of anything.
I have the same problem, I finished my studies two months ago, due to my age I should have been working a long time ago, but I’m afraid. My parents and relatives don’t understand, they think that I’m just looking for a reason not to get settled, but that’s not the case. I really want to find a job and work like an ordinary person normal person like all my friends. But I just can’t overcome myself. When I imagine this interview or test day, I just start getting hysterical. There were also such problems at school, I was also afraid of practice, but somehow I forced myself, perhaps I understood that there was no responsibility, because it was just practice. But with work everything is different. I do not know what to do. Because of this, depression is getting worse every day.
I also have this problem, as a child I was left at home alone early from the age of 4-5 and I developed greater responsibility for myself, after my brother was born, more responsibility (they left me to watch) I was 8 years old. My main fear is that I’m afraid of responsibility at work, that I won’t be able to cope (((and the more responsible the work, the worse it is for me, I start not sleeping, I’m thinking in my head that I won’t be able to cope, after that the sleep goes away, trembling appears and I’m afraid that due to lack of sleep, I can be stupid during the day, behave differently, and now I’m afraid of not falling asleep. I had a second job where I was not afraid, since there was no responsibility and the work itself was calm and I was trained from the beginning. so I worked there quietly. My first place of work was a night store, I was a cashier there, I was worried about money and left, supposedly a big responsibility, the trust was a refusal of desire, then I went to work as a sales consultant, absolutely no responsibility, I specifically refused to work at the cash register (consciously removing responsibility), after graduating from university I got a job in a bank, at first everything was fine until they gave me a test to study, I was very worried that I wouldn’t pass the test, I wouldn’t cope and I lost sleep, the investigation quarreled, I only thought about sleep, and not about the cause of insomnia, I rushed to doctors, in the end I left work, supposedly I was sick, I didn’t sleep, toxin, refusal of desire again. Then I got a new job, they immediately sent me to courses and trained me, I was calm, I wasn’t worried, the work was calm, not active, moderate, so I’ve been doing it for 8 years, I went on maternity leave, I know that I have to leave, but fears, fears that I won’t be able to cope, I think that I’m not a super specialist, that I won’t be able to work at another job ((((. In general the last straw there was a reason, my husband called me through friends for an interview, I behaved well, but after that I started to feel like I couldn’t handle it, I still had a responsibility to my husband, at the interview they asked about the axel, but I don’t work in it, in general the symptoms - I lost sleep , I wasn’t called to work, but now I’m neurotic, conflicted ((((I went to the doctor, but I haven’t gone yet, I drink Teraligen, it helps for 3 hours, my head is constantly working, I know everything and understand all the roots and what should I do, but I don’t want to give up the desire to find a new job, maybe there is a specialist here who can tell me whether I need to look my fear in the eye, or wait and go to a psychotherapist for now?
Hello! I also have this problem. After this article, I realized that my ergophobia has existed since my school days, when our class was disgustingly unfriendly. And when I went to the board, I began to be overcome by a terrible anxiety that I would now look stupid, that they would laugh at me for every mistake, that I had not learned and did not know something. Besides school I studied at music school. The teacher had an authoritarian teaching style, she could shout and slam the keyboard. I was afraid, I didn’t want to practice the instrument, but because of this I didn’t study at home, and when she came to lessons she had to learn everything again with me. But I still went there, because... my parents kept saying, “You won’t give up music, we spent so much money!” Then, by the 9th grade, I decided to leave school quickly because of hostility towards my classmates, then the music teacher decided that I should go to a music college to become a music teacher, and without hesitation, I agreed with her. In college, another phobia began - fear of the stage, of the public, I always thought about WHAT they thought of me - “what will they say, and how will they react?” The state of panic is a terrible and painfully familiar feeling for me, which I cannot cope with on my own to this day.
Now, when looking for a job, I’m always afraid of what I don’t know, that I won’t be able to cope, that I’m probably not doing everything right, that I won’t be able to remember everything. And go to work on Monday musical director V kindergarten. And now I don’t sleep at night, I dream about those moments that I’m afraid and don’t know. No experience, so-so skills, panic again...
Hello Rosalia. Drink soothing tinctures and prepare yourself to cope and get through your first working day with dignity. To calm your soul, you can play some kindergarten music repertoire.
Is it possible to cope with ergophobia if it is already in a very advanced form? The first manifestations began (4 years ago) with a transfer to a new team, then my mother’s serious illness (complaints about work became more frequent) and her death. The result is a reduction. The search for a new job was unsuccessful. Then the younger brother’s serious illness led to his death. I'm trying to get settled again, but I just can't. After another refusal, I practically stopped sleeping. Constant fear that something terrible is going to happen. I'm afraid to communicate with people, I almost never leave the house.
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Yes, go see a good psychologist. You can't live with this. And perhaps this is not a fear of work, but rather a fear that something terrible will happen. It's just that this phobia is mixed with work-related fears. That’s why it’s scary to look for a new one, and having found it, you will project these fears... In general, your only path is to a psychologist. Take the time to do this. It's in your best interest.
Hi, I’m in a similar situation, I worked as a truck driver after I got into an accident in my own car, giving a lot of money to the victim. A week later, my mother died, and I became afraid to drive any kind of car. I’m trying to get a job at my previous position and at the moment I need to go somewhere, I sharply refuse, finding a hundred reasons, after which I quit and start looking for work again. My son is growing up, my family needs money. But only one wife works, because work in our city is very, very bad. I understand that this can’t continue like this, but I can’t do anything. I don’t know what to do or where to turn, since I don’t have money for a psychologist either.
